what would u do in this situation?!?!?!?!?!?!

[phi-life]

If you had the choice of being in a long distance relationship with someone who you knew well and knew they were the one for you, would you go with that? Or would you go for someone close to you, who you didn't know as well, and might not get along with them? I would take the long distance relationship option, as many of you may know. Hehehe.

Anyway, I would like to know what you would do just out of interest.

[Dolly]

Ok, can you please fix the spelling a bit? I hate it when I have to actually sort through things because people can't make a sentence.

Uhm, I'm not sure what to make of calling this a decision, really. If you did "new they were the one", that's speaking in a sense that 1) You somehow honestly know and 2) You actually believe in such a thing, then it's obvious anyone would make that decision.

[Mugen]

Ok, can you please fix the spelling a bit? I hate it when I have to actually sort through things because people can't make a sentence.

Uhm, I'm not sure what to make of calling this a decision, really. If you did "new they were the one", that's speaking in a sense that 1) You somehow honestly know and 2) You actually believe in such a thing, then it's obvious anyone would make that decision. You're on the internet, grit your teeth and bare it.

Long distance relationships are a huge gamble. One: You may irritate each other. Two: You wouldn't be able to visit said person daily, unless you're rich. Three: It may be awkward between the two of you, then you might have a whole week of regret.

[spike81x]

I would try for the LD relationship, even though its a gigantic gamble, but maybe it would work.

[phi-life]

exactly i find that although it may never work out the fact is still that it could work out very well. and i would live out the rest of my life knowing that i had made that right decision from that day

[Areku]

I had a two years long distance relationship and it was kinda weird. But if you like her and have to "make a decision" go ahead, because your other choice "go for someone close to you who u didn't know as well and didn't think that u got along very well" is stupid. What's the poing of having a relationship if you think you don't get along very well?

[blood zero]

i'd rather have a long distance relationship because at least i know she's the one. not only that but if you really care about this person you shouldn't give up on them...
i haven't yet

[Ryuuzaki]

I'm only guessing, but I think I know who this person is that you want to do a long distance relationship with, and I say NAY! Long distance relationships are <insert rude word>. They're just a hassle. In my opinion, a long distance relationship is not a relationship. No, not because you can't touch each other, but because you can't really have a solid emotion for them, nor can you truly love them without meeting them in person. However, it is all up to you. If you want to take the risk of being "heartbroken", then go with the long distance one. If you want to actually try and hold a gal in the real world, then my all means, go ahead. I just think that you should pick someone that actually lives semi-close by.

[AnbuItachi]

i would do a barrel roll!

[Mugen]

i would do a barrel roll! Instead of posting a pointless meme, how about contributing to the question at hand?

[Axe Man]

I think I would take the chance although as said before a huge gamble I'd go for the long distance.

[carolyn07]

...for me,.id better chosse that someone close to me,.as time pass,.ill be able to know him,.and learn to appreciate evrything about him,.

i always believe that love can be learned eh!,.

[Unknown]

You're on the internet, grit your teeth and bare it.


Or not read it at all.. and you won't "bare" anything..

[Russkie]

I wouldnt recomend it.

Not from personal experience, obviously, but from the example of others.

[metalshell]

I'm only guessing, but I think I know who this person is that you want to do a long distance relationship with, and I say NAY! Long distance relationships are <insert rude word>. They're just a hassle. In my opinion, a long distance relationship is not a relationship. No, not because you can't touch each other, but because you can't really have a solid emotion for them, nor can you truly love them without meeting them in person. However, it is all up to you. If you want to take the risk of being "heartbroken", then go with the long distance one. If you want to actually try and hold a gal in the real world, then my all means, go ahead. I just think that you should pick someone that actually lives semi-close by.

:mad:That isn't completly true! you can have emotional feeings for that person because if you really care for them then those feelings will never leave you. not only tha but in this kind of relationship there isn't really "heartbreaks" because you both share those feelings so the only issue in this is that right now you aren't together but if your feelings are true then a way will come where you become together!:mad:

[leerock89]

There's been a thread about this before and I'm going to say the same thing here. LD is a bad idea mainly because of the lack of contact, visual, physical, hearing their voice and even smelling them. Granted you can talk on a phone but that will only go so far. In the end all you will be doing is wasting time. Find someone closer.

[Alucard666]

im just fine with my hand....they never talk back....lol

[analogZero]

two bits of great advice: listen to your brain and not your genitals; and your soul mate isn't likely to be within walking distance.

[badluckcat]

i don't believe in long distance relationship because you lose the main point in a relationship being with that person holding her hand you know the little things that really count you can't do them and just like Ryuuzaki said you can't know if that person is the one if you haven't really meet her .... but this is just what i think you do what you want :)

[meraychan]

it reli depends on a persons mind n heart...mothings wrong if u'll have it but ders such great disadvatage though but if u reli feel something to dat person i think u can bear it...just listen both ur mind n heart n try to balance things...ders nothing wrong in trying...hehe...^_^
having a distance relationship depends on how both of u work it all out...but i guess i'll go 4 it...^_^

[xXWENWENXx]

i prefer close distance
at least u will noe dat de person u r dating is de same gender as u
or it might be a 50 yr old guy

[strike7785]

Long distance relationships really dont work to well unless its military related! THough you can always try it... its not for everyone. See if you really like or love somebody wouldn't you want to be at there side. I mean I would rather be able to hold my girlfriend and be with her as much as possible. In a long distance relationship, you really cant do that!! Yea you can talk on the phone and the internet and send mail but thats it. I think you should stay away from that in avoidence of being hurt and try with someone who is closer to you.

[mmelisaa]

i don't know if this is out of the topic or not, BUT i'll tell it anyway.
a woman i know had a long distance relatinship with a man, who lived in Africa. the woman i know lives in London.. anyway, the man had said he's not ready to get married, but it came to light that he was married already, lived together with his wife and had children! he had lied about hid real age too! that's sick, i say. and they were together for like 3 years...
i prefer short distance relatinships... for some reason. ;)

[jyuukai]

Yes both have perks and both have flaws, but it really depends on the people involved I think. My bro's girlfriend lives in New York and he lives in the Caribbean and strangely enough, this is his first relationship that hasn't been destroyed in like a month. So from exposure to both, the people involved have to make it work or else it's just gonna be the perfect chance to get your heart broken...

[Snoopy]

I don't think I'd be able to handle a LD I'm a very much out of place out of mind (is that how the saying goes?) sort of person I'd end up forgetting my feelings for that person and I know this sounds bad but I'd probably end up cheating that isn't to say that all long LD relationships would end up like taht

[kuristar]

in my opinion short distance relationship is better

[phi-life]

ok well moast of u are saying short distance but well that would be more of a disaster for me than long distance. so i think il stick with my long distance relationship just cause we both feel the same way about each other and it more likely to work out

[spirit]

I'm only guessing, but I think I know who this person is that you want to do a long distance relationship with, and I say NAY! Long distance relationships are <insert rude word>. They're just a hassle. In my opinion, a long distance relationship is not a relationship. No, not because you can't touch each other, but because you can't really have a solid emotion for them, nor can you truly love them without meeting them in person. However, it is all up to you. If you want to take the risk of being "heartbroken", then go with the long distance one. If you want to actually try and hold a gal in the real world, then my all means, go ahead. I just think that you should pick someone that actually lives semi-close by.According to what you just said... it looks like my parents never been in any relationship and their marriage is strictly "virtual" because even though they've been married for over 30 years... 1/2 of that time they lived on two different continents. Not because they were in a "separation" but this is how the life is sometimes.
Are you positive that people who are in long-term long-distance relationships don't share mutual, solid, true emotional bond? I might even say that those relationships are stronger than most of the "regular" ones... because they need to survive uncommon, hard circumstances. It takes more strength to stay committed to each other; you need to have more patience, more trust, be more understanding, more... everything - to make it last. Often, people who are allowed to see each other every day, don't really realize how lucky they are. They don't respect the fact they can be together. Maybe physically they are close but mentally a lot of those couples are apart. When you can't have as much contact with the love one - it makes you want to know, hear, see, remember everything... all of the little details. However, when you have them all time to your deposition - you don't pay attention, don't care, get bored, ignore and so on. It doesn't mean as much to you... because your partner is always within your reach.
This is just how I look at this matter.
I'm not saying that long distance relationships are good, better than normal, perfect or whatever. Those are ridiculously hard and often very painful. Depending on a person and their psyche - there is a chance you could make it all work... or not.
I have this guy in my class... and he's been in a long distance relationship for 6 years. When I first heard about it I said "It's ridiculous and insane".... but I respect that guy for being so strong and committed. I think I would never be able to do it... because I'm too weak.. and sooner or later... I would give in.... My weaknesses and my desires would take control over me. :dead: