It's just sunk in...

[a2ng0d]

Ok. So my girlfriend and I just broke up like...3 hours ago.

And i wasn't really feeling anything until now.

Well; Here's the whole thing in a nutshell:

I moved back to Chicago awhile back for a couple months, and started talking to this girl that ive known for about six years. well; it was half unexpected, but we hit it off...the week before I had to leave. Well truth was we'd liked eachother for the longest time; and none of us wanted to express anything since i moved to atlanta awhile back. Also gotta consider the fact that she is...well; YOUNG. Fourteen.

anyways...it was pretty stupid because we both knew that we had to take going about 4 months without eachother (i was supposed to be coming back for christmas). but like idiots, we both decided to keep this thing going long distance with occasional breaks until i would move back permanently in 2010.

i was missing her the moment i got off the plane. and yeah, we kept this game going for about a month (since 7/21; so our one month was just last thursday).

but i was getting this really empty feeling in the pit of my stomach. i missed her like hell; and it was getting to the point to where i was considering ending it...but i decided to push through it; because thats just how much i loved her.

anyways; my cousin calls and told me that she couldnt take it anymore and wanted to break up. so i talked to her myself. at first i had her hear me out because i wanted to fix this up. then she said sum bull like "You're too perfect and i just dont deserve it"; and "i thought i could take four months without you but i cant." basically the idea was that she'd lost it. she didn't think she had feelings for me anymore. and no, she didnt meet anyone new. she said she didn't want any more relationships for a long time, and she didn't sound happy.

but then i thought about it again. If I was considering breaking up; why didnt she have the right to think the same thing? and she's so young maybe she not mature enough to handle this type of relationship.

We agreed to break it off nice and clean. I told her that I still loved her; but for now we'll just put it all aside until she's older, and I'm living up there where distance isn't a problem. And if feelings were still lingering at that time, then we'd try again. Then we just talked like we were friends again, and agreed to keep in touch.

It's not until now that it's just hit me...she's gone. i mean; she could go to some other guy tomorrow, and it'd be ok because she's not mine anymore. She was..wow; perfect. I mean, we practically read eachother's minds. she was absolutely awesome in every way. and she's gone.

I know that if she were to call me back now, or tomorrow, or in two days , or whenever; i would probably say no and tell her to wait. its for the best. i mean, right? it is for the best. how is this shyt suppposed to work with two people that cant see eachother except for christmas' and summers in the span of TWO YEARS?.....but somethings wrong with this..i dont know what.

Did i make a wise choice?
I dont know what to think.

[spirit]

Ok. So my girlfriend and I just broke up like...3 hours ago.

Are you serious??? And you were really happy when you told me you are (were) in a new relationship!!! This is really sad. Stay strong.

[a2ng0d]

well yeah we were real happy...but stuff happens i dunno.

[analogZero]

Ok. So my girlfriend and I just broke up like...3 hours ago.

And i wasn't really feeling anything until now.

Well; Here's the whole thing in a nutshell:

I moved back to Chicago awhile back for a couple months, and started talking to this girl that ive known for about six years. well; it was half unexpected, but we hit it off...the week before I had to leave. Well truth was we'd liked eachother for the longest time; and none of us wanted to express anything since i moved to atlanta awhile back. Also gotta consider the fact that she is...well; YOUNG. Fourteen.

anyways...it was pretty stupid because we both knew that we had to take going about 4 months without eachother (i was supposed to be coming back for christmas). but like idiots, we both decided to keep this thing going long distance with occasional breaks until i would move back permanently in 2010.

i was missing her the moment i got off the plane. and yeah, we kept this game going for about a month (since 7/21; so our one month was just last thursday).

but i was getting this really empty feeling in the pit of my stomach. i missed her like hell; and it was getting to the point to where i was considering ending it...but i decided to push through it; because thats just how much i loved her.

anyways; my cousin calls and told me that she couldnt take it anymore and wanted to break up. so i talked to her myself. at first i had her hear me out because i wanted to fix this up. then she said sum bull like "You're too perfect and i just dont deserve it"; and "i thought i could take four months without you but i cant." basically the idea was that she'd lost it. she didn't think she had feelings for me anymore. and no, she didnt meet anyone new. she said she didn't want any more relationships for a long time, and she didn't sound happy.

but then i thought about it again. If I was considering breaking up; why didnt she have the right to think the same thing? and she's so young maybe she not mature enough to handle this type of relationship.

We agreed to break it off nice and clean. I told her that I still loved her; but for now we'll just put it all aside until she's older, and I'm living up there where distance isn't a problem. And if feelings were still lingering at that time, then we'd try again. Then we just talked like we were friends again, and agreed to keep in touch.

It's not until now that it's just hit me...she's gone. i mean; she could go to some other guy tomorrow, and it'd be ok because she's not mine anymore. She was..wow; perfect. I mean, we practically read eachother's minds. she was absolutely awesome in every way. and she's gone.

I know that if she were to call me back now, or tomorrow, or in two days , or whenever; i would probably say no and tell her to wait. its for the best. i mean, right? it is for the best. how is this shyt suppposed to work with two people that cant see eachother except for christmas' and summers in the span of TWO YEARS?.....but somethings wrong with this..i dont know what.

Did i make a wise choice?
I dont know what to think.


mystery solved....I know folk in there 20's that can barely keep a long distance relationship like that going.

[Kenshy]

Oh, my, she must of been the 'one'. Touch break (!)

[a2ng0d]

do i sense sarcasm o_O? hahahahahahahaha....

[Maydraie]

It's probably better this way.

[a2ng0d]

so you agree that i made a good choice then..?

[analogZero]

ya, she's young and immature. check and mate! minus the mating now because your single, but whatevs.

[leerock89]

I tried long distance relationships but they hardly ever worked. Reason number one is the absence of contact. Actually...that's the only reason it never works. If you can't see each other, touch each other, smell each other, or even taste each other, it's not worth the time. Another thing is time changes things. It's a constant factor of life. One must flow with the river of life to reap it's benefits, and because if this you will never know what will happen. You might find someone who's near you that you fall for, or she might find someone near her who she falls for. It happens. So basically, yes you made the right choice.

[a2ng0d]

thanks alot bro; you couldnt have put that better....unless you added the cheese =D

[leerock89]

Cheeese!!!!!!! Omg Cchhheeeeeessee!!!

[Kenshy]

Cheeese!!!!!!! Omg Cchhheeeeeessee!!!Are you 10?

[cupfuel]

Ok. So my girlfriend and I just broke up like...3 hours ago.

And i wasn't really feeling anything until now.

Well; Here's the whole thing in a nutshell:

I moved back to Chicago awhile back for a couple months, and started talking to this girl that ive known for about six years. well; it was half unexpected, but we hit it off...the week before I had to leave. Well truth was we'd liked eachother for the longest time; and none of us wanted to express anything since i moved to atlanta awhile back. Also gotta consider the fact that she is...well; YOUNG. Fourteen.

anyways...it was pretty stupid because we both knew that we had to take going about 4 months without eachother (i was supposed to be coming back for christmas). but like idiots, we both decided to keep this thing going long distance with occasional breaks until i would move back permanently in 2010.

i was missing her the moment i got off the plane. and yeah, we kept this game going for about a month (since 7/21; so our one month was just last thursday).

but i was getting this really empty feeling in the pit of my stomach. i missed her like hell; and it was getting to the point to where i was considering ending it...but i decided to push through it; because thats just how much i loved her.

anyways; my cousin calls and told me that she couldnt take it anymore and wanted to break up. so i talked to her myself. at first i had her hear me out because i wanted to fix this up. then she said sum bull like "You're too perfect and i just dont deserve it"; and "i thought i could take four months without you but i cant." basically the idea was that she'd lost it. she didn't think she had feelings for me anymore. and no, she didnt meet anyone new. she said she didn't want any more relationships for a long time, and she didn't sound happy.

but then i thought about it again. If I was considering breaking up; why didnt she have the right to think the same thing? and she's so young maybe she not mature enough to handle this type of relationship.

We agreed to break it off nice and clean. I told her that I still loved her; but for now we'll just put it all aside until she's older, and I'm living up there where distance isn't a problem. And if feelings were still lingering at that time, then we'd try again. Then we just talked like we were friends again, and agreed to keep in touch.

It's not until now that it's just hit me...she's gone. i mean; she could go to some other guy tomorrow, and it'd be ok because she's not mine anymore. She was..wow; perfect. I mean, we practically read eachother's minds. she was absolutely awesome in every way. and she's gone.

I know that if she were to call me back now, or tomorrow, or in two days , or whenever; i would probably say no and tell her to wait. its for the best. i mean, right? it is for the best. how is this shyt suppposed to work with two people that cant see eachother except for christmas' and summers in the span of TWO YEARS?.....but somethings wrong with this..i dont know what.

Did i make a wise choice?
I dont know what to think.


did you say it was ur cousin???
well love is blind and if you were happy with her, then you should've kept seein her. like kept in touch since you're in chicago and all. but she feels she wasnt ready. you said something's wrong with all of this, i think it was letting her go.

[amerikajin]

did you say it was ur cousin???
well love is blind and if you were happy with her, then you should've kept seein her. like kept in touch since you're in chicago and all. but she feels she wasnt ready. you said something's wrong with all of this, i think it was letting her go.

ummm...i think he meant his cousin called him to say his girlfriend couldn't take it anymore...not that his cousin was his girlfriend.

[cupfuel]

ummm...i think he meant his cousin called him to say his girlfriend couldn't take it anymore...not that his cousin was his girlfriend.

oh. my bad. sorry.:wave:
but i hope things still go well for him.

[arcose]

ital be alright u well finde the one

[a2ng0d]

wow that was awkward....lol i was actually scanning through my post to see if i said she was my cousin LOL. wow that woulda been...so awkward to explain ^_^;

@arcose: its all good; we're kinda just splitting for a couple years and see if anything's still there when i return.

[Klard]

You did the logical thing. That's about all I can say. I'm not good at this relationship mumbo jumbo.

[cupfuel]

ok
sorry for the misunderstanding.lol

[a2ng0d]

hahah no problem we all read things wrong. but hey i did write too much to yeah it was easier to midunderstand. ^_^

[cupfuel]

oh ok. lol

[leerock89]

Are you 10?

You do not know me.

[Anime_Dude]

love is blind man u never know wat can happen...but it was a good thing
u guys decied to end it for now...hopefully in the future u guys will
be able to see each other again,and lite that spark u guys had again

[puppetz]

yeah it was a good idea. maybe you can hit it off again. besides when they are young they are stupid. hey man i live like right by chicago and if she slips up and says something bad to you let me know (joke) but yeah i can hit the city with a rock. but its kind of a bad place.

[Persha]

Ok. So my girlfriend and I just broke up like...3 hours ago.

And i wasn't really feeling anything until now.

Well; Here's the whole thing in a nutshell:

I moved back to Chicago awhile back for a couple months, and started talking to this girl that ive known for about six years. well; it was half unexpected, but we hit it off...the week before I had to leave. Well truth was we'd liked eachother for the longest time; and none of us wanted to express anything since i moved to atlanta awhile back. Also gotta consider the fact that she is...well; YOUNG. Fourteen.

anyways...it was pretty stupid because we both knew that we had to take going about 4 months without eachother (i was supposed to be coming back for christmas). but like idiots, we both decided to keep this thing going long distance with occasional breaks until i would move back permanently in 2010.

i was missing her the moment i got off the plane. and yeah, we kept this game going for about a month (since 7/21; so our one month was just last thursday).

but i was getting this really empty feeling in the pit of my stomach. i missed her like hell; and it was getting to the point to where i was considering ending it...but i decided to push through it; because thats just how much i loved her.

anyways; my cousin calls and told me that she couldnt take it anymore and wanted to break up. so i talked to her myself. at first i had her hear me out because i wanted to fix this up. then she said sum bull like "You're too perfect and i just dont deserve it"; and "i thought i could take four months without you but i cant." basically the idea was that she'd lost it. she didn't think she had feelings for me anymore. and no, she didnt meet anyone new. she said she didn't want any more relationships for a long time, and she didn't sound happy.

but then i thought about it again. If I was considering breaking up; why didnt she have the right to think the same thing? and she's so young maybe she not mature enough to handle this type of relationship.

We agreed to break it off nice and clean. I told her that I still loved her; but for now we'll just put it all aside until she's older, and I'm living up there where distance isn't a problem. And if feelings were still lingering at that time, then we'd try again. Then we just talked like we were friends again, and agreed to keep in touch.

It's not until now that it's just hit me...she's gone. i mean; she could go to some other guy tomorrow, and it'd be ok because she's not mine anymore. She was..wow; perfect. I mean, we practically read eachother's minds. she was absolutely awesome in every way. and she's gone.

I know that if she were to call me back now, or tomorrow, or in two days , or whenever; i would probably say no and tell her to wait. its for the best. i mean, right? it is for the best. how is this shyt suppposed to work with two people that cant see eachother except for christmas' and summers in the span of TWO YEARS?.....but somethings wrong with this..i dont know what.

Did i make a wise choice?
I dont know what to think.

Ok first off it's not really a right or wrong thing it's just life and you both made a choice. How it turns out only time will tell.
Second yes she is young and at that age she's still figuring out who she is...she could change a great deal from 14 to even 16 and so-on...you just never know. But at that age it can be really hard to maintain a long distance relationship.
This is probably your best option...if you really like her then remain friends with her..but be prepared that one day she might find someone new...i'm not saying it's a definite thing but you never know. If she doesn't then see how things go when you move back to Chicago. You might be able to pick up right where you left off like nothing ever happened.
A lot of time's it seems the wisest choices are the one's that hurt the most.
Anyways whatever happens good luck!

[Kenshy]

You do not know me.
Well, you act like a little 10 year old with ADHD "Cheese, like, omg, I love cheese. Also, I love attention."

[newbsrule]

Ok i didnt read everyones replys or anything but if u truly do "love" her then i think u need to try and work things out. Ive been in a long distance relationship with this woman i love for iono.... 7 months now? and we r goin just fine.... im 17 shes 16 sooooo ya... not a huge difference between 14 and 16 bro so i think u should try and work things out with her and see wats wat

[newbsrule]

Persha BAD therapy!!!! even tho i agree with it -.- id go with wat she says ignore my post

[strike7785]

Yea, I think you did the right thing. Not being able to see someone until Christmas or the Summer is a good wile. Just stay the course and like Spirit said stay strong. I agree if she is 14 she is still to im-mature to deal with that kind of relationship. She may feel different as she grows.

[a2ng0d]

yeah it was a good idea. maybe you can hit it off again. besides when they are young they are stupid. hey man i live like right by chicago and if she slips up and says something bad to you let me know (joke) but yeah i can hit the city with a rock. but its kind of a bad place.

hey chicago aint so bad. s'where i was born and grew up. lol where you at? ill tell you something; we're WAY nicer than New Yorkers.

example:
OT (outta towner): Hello, do you know where i can find so and so?
Chicagoan: Yeah how ye doin', jus go down 2 lights an make a right.
OT: Thanks!
Chicagoan: No prollem have a good one =).

OT: Excuse me sir; do you know where ---
New Yorker: 'ey F*ck You im busy ok? Have a good day, as*hole.

and btw thanks for everything guys i really appreciate it... i mean i REALLY do...specially persha ^_^....s'been kinda hard these past couple days you know?

[Persha]

hey chicago aint so bad. s'where i was born and grew up. lol where you at? ill tell you something; we're WAY nicer than New Yorkers.

example:
OT (outta towner): Hello, do you know where i can find so and so?
Chicagoan: Yeah how ye doin', jus go down 2 lights an make a right.
OT: Thanks!
Chicagoan: No prollem have a good one =).

OT: Excuse me sir; do you know where ---
New Yorker: 'ey F*ck You im busy ok? Have a good day, as*hole.

and btw thanks for everything guys i really appreciate it... i mean i REALLY do...specially persha ^_^....s'been kinda hard these past couple days you know?

LOL funny stuff! :)
No problem at all...I just hope anything we've all said helps if even a little bit. And if you ever need to chat just send me a pm anytime.
Peace - Persha

Persha BAD therapy!!!! even tho i agree with it -.- id go with wat she says ignore my post
What'd ya mean bad therapy...pfft.. :P It's just my opinion on the matter...and it's not like I'm trying to shove it down anyones throat...it's more a take it or leave it situation. :)

[Omedetou]

You are a good guy, and I think you will be fine. She didnt make a wrong choice, if she couldnt handle that far apart then she isnt ready for any serious commitment yet.

[spirit]

Ok. So my girlfriend and I just broke up like...3 hours ago.

And i wasn't really feeling anything until now.

Well; Here's the whole thing in a nutshell:

I moved back to Chicago awhile back for a couple months, and started talking to this girl that ive known for about six years. well; it was half unexpected, but we hit it off...the week before I had to leave. Well truth was we'd liked eachother for the longest time; and none of us wanted to express anything since i moved to atlanta awhile back. Also gotta consider the fact that she is...well; YOUNG. Fourteen.

anyways...it was pretty stupid because we both knew that we had to take going about 4 months without eachother (i was supposed to be coming back for christmas). but like idiots, we both decided to keep this thing going long distance with occasional breaks until i would move back permanently in 2010.

i was missing her the moment i got off the plane. and yeah, we kept this game going for about a month (since 7/21; so our one month was just last thursday).

but i was getting this really empty feeling in the pit of my stomach. i missed her like hell; and it was getting to the point to where i was considering ending it...but i decided to push through it; because thats just how much i loved her.

anyways; my cousin calls and told me that she couldnt take it anymore and wanted to break up. so i talked to her myself. at first i had her hear me out because i wanted to fix this up. then she said sum bull like "You're too perfect and i just dont deserve it"; and "i thought i could take four months without you but i cant." basically the idea was that she'd lost it. she didn't think she had feelings for me anymore. and no, she didnt meet anyone new. she said she didn't want any more relationships for a long time, and she didn't sound happy.

but then i thought about it again. If I was considering breaking up; why didnt she have the right to think the same thing? and she's so young maybe she not mature enough to handle this type of relationship.

We agreed to break it off nice and clean. I told her that I still loved her; but for now we'll just put it all aside until she's older, and I'm living up there where distance isn't a problem. And if feelings were still lingering at that time, then we'd try again. Then we just talked like we were friends again, and agreed to keep in touch.

It's not until now that it's just hit me...she's gone. i mean; she could go to some other guy tomorrow, and it'd be ok because she's not mine anymore. She was..wow; perfect. I mean, we practically read eachother's minds. she was absolutely awesome in every way. and she's gone.

I know that if she were to call me back now, or tomorrow, or in two days , or whenever; i would probably say no and tell her to wait. its for the best. i mean, right? it is for the best. how is this shyt suppposed to work with two people that cant see eachother except for christmas' and summers in the span of TWO YEARS?.....but somethings wrong with this..i dont know what.

Did i make a wise choice?
I dont know what to think.

I can see some AF members mentioning your ex's age as the main "issue" here.
Party, I must agree with them. You both are really young. And the difference between a 14-years old and 16-years old is much bigger than between 24. and 26. old. But this in not the main factor why it didn't work out, or probably wouldn't if you tried to keep this long-distance relationship going.
It all depends on a person. Some kids can be more mature, loyal and attached to other people than any adult.

But the real question is, why would you want to suffer this long? Does any of you deserve to ruin the best time in your lives on suffering in a solitary?

It's like being tied up one to another with a really long string. It feels like you're bonded together, but this bond is not enough to feel each other, to experience the life together... it only makes you suffer, because it's too short to move, you can't breathe, you can't normally prosper.. without thinking about the other person. It's like being imprisoned.
I believe that none of you deserve to sacrifice your life and the presence.

If you could compare the pain while dealing with the long relation-ship >>> not being able to see her, talk to her face to face, touch her etc --- with slowly letting go, but keeping her in your memories > mind and heart.
To me the second option is still painful, but it's a different kind of pain - it's like a "sweet melancholy."
It won't make you hurt as much as fighting with the "impossible to concur" at this moment. You can't fight the distance or kill the time but you could use it wisely to live your life, be the happy person you are, improve your qualities and strength.. Instead of becoming miserable over the "poisonous pain" that sooner or later would kill you from inside.

Is she (your ex) being selfish that she wanted to break up with you? (some guys on AF probably thought that) haha... : ) Or were you selfish that you wanted to break up with her?
Think this way: what would be really selfish... >>> to end up this agony before it's to overwhelming... or not being able to let you free?
What is more selfish? What requires more strength? To lock you up for another two years (having you only for herself)... or... to let go something she loved the most, believing that this feeling will survive the time and other life experiences, and that one day you will get reunited.

You said that you knew each other for a really long time. And you were always hiding those warm feelings towards each other, right? Seems, like you two grew up to open your hearts... express your true feelings. And that's fine, because now you are aware of each other. You know that there is someone who cares for you. If those feelings are strong enough and true, then if you meet in a year or two.... you might discover that you are still "meant for each other." If not - then none of you should have any "hard feelings" .. and you will be able to smile and laugh. It is a way better solution to stay the best friends rather than become enemies.
Probably you both want to cherish each other, and this is the only way to do it. Dealing with long-distance and time can make you only hate the emotional and mental state you're in.... which may mislead you to think that you hate each other, whereas the only thing you hate is the distance.

Frustration, feeling of doubt and depression would only make you grow apart however not physically but emotionally.
A real difference between the distance & distance.

[Ryuuzaki]

Ouch...Even thought this thread is two days old I may as well give some advise to ya. But I really really feel bad about this, man. I mean, when you told me you had a new girlfriend, you sounded so happy about it. But, I also think that her age may be the main problem. I do believe you made the right choice in calling it off, and not pushing it too far. Reason being, like you said, you two are still friends and will act as such. If you pushed it after she already said she wanted to end it, then you may have been doing more bad then good. So my advise, is keep things with her the way they are for now. If you two want to get into another relationship when she gets older, of course do what ya want, but also, wait until she's older. And last, you can just find someone your own age-that's always a good idea...Unless you like 'em young...Whatever floats your boat man...

[a2ng0d]

spirit and L : that hit the spot.

everyday i got ups and downs. i mean i think that [we] made the right choice. and i feel good about it; but usually by the end of the day the endorphines wear off and i get bummed out again... but yeah when i read these advices they really help.

[spirit]

spirit and L : that hit the spot.

everyday i got ups and downs. i mean i think that [we] made the right choice. and i feel good about it; but usually by the end of the day the endorphines wear off and i get bummed out again... but yeah when i read these advices they really help.It's not that you made the "easier" choice. No, not at all. It's difficult as hell to break up with someone you love. BUT it doesn't mean that you can't still fight for it. That you can't keep in touch and continue being emotionally close. Let the feelings mature on their own. But by making this decision, you are both allowing yourself to nurse this relationship in a better environment. Instead of growing tension and feeling of helplessness, you may focus on yourself, instead of pain.
I know you still miss her very much, but isn't it a different kind of longing? I think you might feel relieved in a while... you might... I hope you will... rather than stay in this hectic state.

I do understand you, because I have experienced something similar myself. haha

[Ryuuzaki]

No, not at all. It's difficult as hell to break up with someone you love.

Actually I along with a few rare people might disagree with that statement. I have been in love, and I cut it off (rather suddenly too). It really wasn't that hard.

But that's off topic.

Glad that I was able to help ya A2n. :3

[SinXxX]

It was better that you broke up. If you didn't, frustrations will just pour in your relationship and will both make you hate each other. Believe me, it did happen to me.

Just as spirit said, take a break, let yourself mature. Then you can try again in the future...when distance isn't a problem anymore...

[a2ng0d]

yeah...my only problem now is well...it looks like she has her interests on someone new. i mean; thats just...wrong right?. but idk because we did agree that it was ok to see other people...but so soon?

so im thinking about it now. since theres no point in being in this bad position like spirit said, its OK for her to do this right? so am i just flipping out for no reason?

[Ryuuzaki]

You're flipping out for no reason. One of my last girlfriends (can't remember which) started seeing someone the same day we broke up. lol Let it go, man. She was moooved on, so should you. :3

[carolyn07]

...oh my gosh!,.thats so romantic,.i can say that you really love her huh!,.well,.for m,.you made a right choice,.if your really for each other,.fate and love will find a way for both of you to be together!,.if she really loves you,.theres no need for you guys to be on a relationship to make her wait,.if she really loves you,.whether your on or not,.she will wait for you!,.yah know what i mean?,.besides,.your both young!,.i mean,.im already 18 and still got no boyfriend coz im waitng for the right one!,.stay positive!,.♥♥♥!,.wish you all the best bro!,.

You're flipping out for no reason. One of my last girlfriends (can't remember which) started seeing someone the same day we broke up. lol Let it go, man. She was moooved on, so should you. :3

...huh?,.im sorry to hear that!,.but you know,.take it on the positive side,.your broke up really means that she doesnt love you anymore and you really dont deserve here!,.at least she became honest with you?,.=)♥♥

[a2ng0d]

thanks for your optimism ^_^

[carolyn07]

...yar welcum!,.im the fairy god mother of those who are inlove!,.hahaha♥

[spirit]

Actually I along with a few rare people might disagree with that statement. I have been in love, and I cut it off (rather suddenly too). It really wasn't that hard.

But that's off topic.

Glad that I was able to help ya A2n. :3really? was it that easy? Well, I am always surpirsed by those who cut off their relationships with such an ease.
I wish it was so simple for me :/
But I was referring to a2n, since he seems to suffer.. I mean it's been already a while... and this feeling still seems to linger in him....
But the difference is, that Ryuu wanted to finish it... to discontinue.. - you didn't want to be with that girl anymore, you didn't want to care, love etc.
Whereas, a2n made the decision against his heart. It's not that he wanted to end up this relationship because he stopped feeling anything towards her, but because he still cares for her.... therefore... he doesn't want either her or him to suffer.

[Ryuuzaki]

[COLOR="Pink"]...huh?,.im sorry to hear that!,.but you know,.take it on the positive side,.your broke up really means that she doesnt love you anymore and you really dont deserve here!,.at least she became honest with you?,.=)♥♥

lol Yep I guess that's one way to look at it. And thank you for taking the time to write that up.

really? was it that easy? Well, I am always surpirsed by those who cut off their relationships with such an ease.
I wish it was so simple for me :/ Yep, that easy. I can cut off any relationship in a few seconds. It all has to do with how much you are able to control your emotions.

[Orangeii]

breaking up with people is no problem for me but when we start fighting after that, THEN there is a problem i have to face. o yea i hope you get over your problem a2ng0d.

[spirit]

...huh?,.im sorry to hear that!,.but you know,.take it on the positive side,.your broke up really means that she doesnt love you anymore and you really dont deserve here!,.at least she became honest with you?,.=)♥♥
Um, did you even care to read the entire paragraph a2n wrote? He said that he was thinking about breaking up with her, too!!! It just happened that he was thinking about doing it, while he received a message/call from his cousin who told him about his ex' frustration. So they both agreed to break up.
Does it mean that he doesn't love her as well?
It doesn't necessary mean that someone doesn't love just because they decide to go separate ways. Believe me. I am just talking in general, not about this specific example, here.
Despite everyone's opinion the only person who really knows their feelings is this girl, and a2n.