should i break up wth him?

[lila]

ive been going out wth him for about a year now, but i just dnt feel so in love wth him anymore, nothings changed about him so idk y i feel like this.

[quietchat]

Are you pisces? Those under the sign pisces are known to wander in and out of love, even in devotion and lack of temptation. At least that's how I am.

But what really matters is how both of you feel. Ask him, tell him that you don't feel the spark in your relationship anymore, and try for a couple days to see if you can't make that spark happen. If nothing happens, then both of you remember that you will still be friends and had wonderful times together.

[lila]

i know he loves me, he told me he would marry me if i was 18, so how do i get out of this without killing him.

[quietchat]

You need to let him know that you no longer have feelings. It's better to be honest about it.

[lila]

i hv some, wht if i break up wth him, only to find thats the best i could have had

[quietchat]

Have you ever heard the expression, "Tis better to have loved and lost, then to never have loved at all?"

Besides this, a relationship isn't everything. You really don't need to worry about who was the best you could of had. If you don't love him, it wouldn't matter anyway.

[analogZero]

i hv some, wht if i break up wth him, only to find thats the best i could have had

one year is sort of a drop in the bucket compared to the rest of your life. plus there's more guys out there than you could count in the rest of your lifetime. the odds that he's the best guy for you are shallow and invisibly thin.
that aside, it may simply be that the two of you have worked into routine...or perhaps you don't do much at all (how'm I to know). perhaps what you need is something out of the ordinary.

[lila]

we usually stay home and watch tv, or go fishing(which i dnt really like)

[Russkie]

*restrains self from making a demented comment and leaves*

[Oblivious]

If you don't love him anymore, there's no need to be with him.

[spingo]

if ur not hapey then y go on with it ull just end up hurting him or urself if u live a lie u will end up hateing be with him :(

[Yoshi]

i think u should

[analogZero]

we usually stay home and watch tv, or go fishing(which i dnt really like)

sounds like you're probably not on the receiving end of action and adventure. I suggest starting with a grappling hook and some serran wrap and go from there.

[Ino]

ive been going out wth him for about a year now, but i just dnt feel so in love wth him anymore, nothings changed about him so idk y i feel like this.

Well, if you feel like this, you should talk face to face with your ex-boyfriend. Does he have strong feelings over you?

[Maydraie]

First off, if you don't completely like him and want to dump him, smash his face in. You'll feel a lot better. Just tell him how it is. And sides, surely you'll find someone you like better. There's only how many people left in the world?

[Shigami]

"Should i.."

Yes you should.

[arcose]

put hem in a pet with a lion and have hem fight if u lives he loves u(:<C jkjk i dont know what to tell u

[MelBrooks]

you guys come up with sick jks and yet somehow i manage to laugh

[chocolat12]

i think that you might have no feelings for him anymore because you've been with him for a long time...

but you might like him anymore...so break up with him...you'll hurt him but you'll feel better afterwards...

[MelBrooks]

i think the reason that you dont like him anymore is because all your dates have either been watching TV and going fishing but those 2 things can build up to a BORING kinda relationship

[Inulove17]

Tough love lives, I've seen it all especially the bad times with a friend of mine, she was a bit.. well blind sided. But anyways.. it seems you are having second thoughts, maybe he just isn't "the one" there are others in the world and maybe that soul mate of yours just needs to figure out where to find you(I know mine does). Yes you will hurt his feelings but if you can laugh it off and be good friends then theres not much to worry about.

[analogZero]

First off, if you don't completely like him and want to dump him, smash his face in. You'll feel a lot better. Just tell him how it is. And sides, surely you'll find someone you like better. There's only how many people left in the world?

making pudding out of what little feelings he has left is usualy the more cut throat direct approach. plus you can't be accused of abuse. nothing says I don't like you anymore like a punch to the soul.



oh, and I'd say cut the ties. your one and only love likely has more going on than a cable hook up and an extra fishing rod.

[lila]

i dnt not love him at all,its just not nearly as much nemore

[partyprobe]

Well if you don't feel the same way he does there is no avoiding it. You should tell him what you feel even if it breaks his heart. It's either your happiness or his happiness that will be broken depending on what you do. You have to think how you will feel if you stay with him rather than looking for someone new. He will get over some day, just do what you have to do.

[Kenshy]

ive been going out wth him for about a year now, but i just dnt feel so in love wth him anymore, nothings changed about him so idk y i feel like this. You should kill him, saw off his limbs, (remember to freeze them), then dissolve the body in acid and lime. The limbs make a good roast. Also, if you are going to kill him, make it a boating accident, that way forensics have no way of proving it was you. The police will just assume the corpse will float ashore someway down the line.

[saprintha]

i dnt not love him at all,its just not nearly as much nemore

if you don't it would be best if you 2 just broke up, i know it may break his heart, but he has to understand what you are feeling.put in his point of view. if he does not have much feeling for you anymore, would he break up with you? i have known some guys like that. and in your case, it's just like one of my friends. she didn't have feeling for him any more, and over summer, they broke up. now her bf was my friend too, and i know that he's hurt, but he said that it's ok and he'll get over it. talk to him to see what how much he still loves you, then you'll know when to break up or not. but don't forget to let him know how you feel. if my advice does not help, i'm very sorry!:oo:

[hena1015]

i think that u both should stay away from each other for sometim...lik a short vacation without him so during that time u can find out wether u really do lik him or nt.....coz u always with him....wen u alone.....if u miss him loadz....then i think u still do feel for him....n u should tell him about it.....he will understand if he really likes u...k....::D:hope it gets better!!!

[Orangeii]

dump him if ya don lik him find a new man sheesh hes gonna break ur heart before u break his

[cupfuel]

Are you pisces? Those under the sign pisces are known to wander in and out of love, even in devotion and lack of temptation. At least that's how I am.

But what really matters is how both of you feel. Ask him, tell him that you don't feel the spark in your relationship anymore, and try for a couple days to see if you can't make that spark happen. If nothing happens, then both of you remember that you will still be friends and had wonderful times together.

i agree. try what he said. if all else fails, then just move on. im not tryin to make it sound all rude or anything...

[salmeria]

why dont you take a break from each other..and if you still dont feel anything toward him then jst tell him the truth and break up with him..

[AIDA]

ive been going out wth him for about a year now, but i just dnt feel so in love wth him anymore, nothings changed about him so idk y i feel like this.

i dont think breaking up with him is the best idea. maybe you should spice up ur relationship.

[Kenshy]

i dont think breaking up with him is the best idea. maybe you should spice up ur relationship.You're a sick individual. Lube, Gimp suit, rope, and drugs is not the way to spice up a relationship. Sick human.

[Unknown]

Yeah, asking for advice in a place where most of the people here seem to have never been in a relationship before is not a good idea..

[cupfuel]

'specially form sick twerps

[sephiroth_]

if u have no more feelings for him them u must tell him that its not orking

[spirit]

ive been going out wth him for about a year now, but i just dnt feel so in love wth him anymore, nothings changed about him so idk y i feel like this.The question is: do you want to fix this relationship or get out of it? Is there any chance or hope that your love will grow under new circumstances?
Well, to stay with someone just because they are so in love with you - is not a good idea. But on the other hand if he would leave you - then you might realize that he was much more important to you than you thought.

[athrun0017]

The question is: do you want to fix this relationship or get out of it? Is there any chance or hope that your love will grow under new circumstances?
Well, to stay with someone just because they are so in love with you - is not a good idea. But on the other hand if he would leave you - then you might realize that he was much more important to you than you thought.

I say you pretty much hit that on the spot..

[spirit]

I say you pretty much hit that on the spot..Thanks, athrun...
I mean she needs to realize what is that she really wants.
She is asking us for something we can't really decide for her. Plus, I believe she already knows the answer. I think this is pretty pointless thread.
She didn't give any arguments for which she should or wants to stay with him, she struggles..... but over what??? :/ :oo:

[athrun0017]

Thanks, athrun...
I mean she needs to realize what is that she really wants.
She is asking us for something we can't really decide for her. Plus, I believe she already knows the answer. I think this is pretty pointless thread.
She didn't give any arguments for which she should or wants to stay with him, she struggles..... but over what??? :/ :oo:

well its understandable since she has been with the same guy forever, even the fact that he would even wait for her to turn 18! but still.. its her decision and her life..

[cindy]

if u have no feelings for him anymore (the love feeling of wanting to be with him forever) ... than break up with him ... cuz being with someone that u don't have feelings for anyone is pointless ... and it's better to tell him the truth about the marriage thing now ... cuz telling him later might hurt him more ...

[a2ng0d]

many people here have a good point. and the relationship you describe with him seems pretty boring. i would say there are good points in breaking up with him, for reasons already stated; but for one i dont like to see good couples break up. yes there are alot of guys out there. but hey what if ur missing out on something good? those are the questions goin thru ur head, no?

well...i noticed that no one here has asked this yet: how's the sex?

i mean yeah its awkward, but you asked for help so...have you taken it to the next level yet? because you are planning to be married. maybe you should if you havent already. and if you have...try doing it more often.

on a more serious note: you guys need to either do something to get ur relationship back or else its going to be boring for the rest of your life. and if thats the case you gotta end it; because no one deserves to be with someone they dont love. tell him that you dont enjoy fishing and watching tv. tell him you are losing it. ten try to make it better. i think this discussion is pretty much over. theres nothing much else to say about it.

[gravion17]

Just be Honest with him....tell him that although you do love him, you're just not in love with him any more! Talk things over, hold nothing back...maybe you guys can figure out what went wrong and what you guys can do to fix it! If not, than move on...you sound pretty young and there is a whole world out there for you! Good luck

[lila]

i broke up wth him, but he made it really difficult. and he keeps calling and showing up at my house

[soulten]

Do you own a gun, if so......

Just tell him to leave you alone, or say what you think, you should know the best way to handle it.

[archangel2]

do whats in your heart

[a2ng0d]

i broke up wth him, but he made it really difficult. and he keeps calling and showing up at my house

well on his behalf; he is in a world of pain. In other words; it may take him awhile to let you go. just play it cool; but not cold. he will gradually move on.

[Teknofuel]

well on his behalf; he is in a world of pain. In other words; it may take him awhile to let you go. just play it cool; but not cold. he will gradually move on.

Or you could just be fair and ask him not to follow you everywhere. It's a normal request. Sure, he might be in pain, but he has to get over it.

[Kenshy]

i broke up wth him, but he made it really difficult. and he keeps calling and showing up at my houseStalker alert. Stalker alert.

[Zieghart]

i broke up wth him, but he made it really difficult. and he keeps calling and showing up at my house

Well I guess it's natural for him to do that... After all, you broke up with him for being boring...:serious: Anyway, just tell him that you wanted to try being free for a change... And tell him that he should too... And that he may find someone better...

[carolyn07]

...the final decision is up to you,.

but take this,.

analyze the things,.

if you love him,.dont,.

but if you dont,.

then go!,.

doesnt matter if you have been dating a a decade,.

what matters most is what you feel and be honest to him,.

if the guy loves you,.i think,.the more and longer you date,.

i think the deeper hell love you!,.by that time,.i think youll hurt him more!,.♥

[Russkie]

Stalker alert. Stalker alert.

I was thinking the same thing.

[spirit]

Why is this thread still being continued, I bet she has already broke up with that guys.. since she started a new thread about "when to start going out after breaking up" or something between those lines. :dead: :oo: :dizzy:

[BlueSano]

hmmmmm......since i'm kinda evil ...i would say DUMP his ass MWAHAHAHAHAH XD(i think you better not listen to me XP)

[strike7785]

Dont fall for that shit. If you dont feel the love anymore, odds are he might be giving it to someone else. You just dont know that yet.

[Kham]

yo lila, do whatever your heart tells you.

[strike7785]

I say confront him