I'm lost need advice

[ichigogirl]

Hello people, well lately I have been very lost you see I roommate with this lady, her name is Amy she is 27 with 5 kids that she is constantly neglecting, she is never home when they need her the most I am and I'm not their mother. See I started off watching these kids because of the money, but now it's not about that anymore I actually care about them and I enjoy spending time with them sometimes, but lately I have been feeling like just giving up and on them and moving out and not just because she neglects her kids, but because she has been talking crap about me in front of her kids the one person that will watch them and I'm so fed up with the crap. The kids have been begging me not to leave, but I just can't let her take advantage of me anymore I really love her kids, but I really can not put up with their mothers crap anymore.

Please if anyone one has any advice for me don't hesitate to leave a message i really need it right now.

[soulten]

plant some c4 around the room and......ignore that

Make her see the errors of her ways and leave.

[Ryuuzaki]

Ha! I'd leave. Not saying that because I don't like kids...at all, but because of the Mother. What I would do, is flat out say in front of the kids something along the lines of, "I'm sorry, but I'm going to leave because I'm fed up with the stuff your Mother is saying about me."

[leerock89]

Well this here is a nasty predicament. You have grown an attachment to the kids whose mother uses you so she can go party and neglect her kids. I would leave...I woulda left a long time ago... you're your own person, you have no obligation to anyone other then you. Those kids aren't your, that mother isn't your babies mama, if she's using you leave.

[ichigogirl]

Hey guys, thanks a lot you've all helped me out a great deal I knew that people would say leave I just wanted to see what everyone had to say. Again thank you guys I'm gonna leave.

[Arielle]

If you chose to leave or stay the situation will always be a burden on you, unless ther can be some kind of solution.

I believe you should talk to the mother and have her raise her own children. You're not the kids parent or relative, so really you shouldn't have to do the things she's supposed to do.

I can understand that you love the kids and want to stay with them, but really the mother's the problem, and you shouldn't have to take the bad things your roomate is saying to her kids.

Talk in a calm logical way a human being would, and fix this complex situation you're in. If possible chose a way that would best be a good chose for all.

Even if you stay, there is no possible way to stay with someone who talks bad about you when you try to help take care of her kids, so really the mother has to change her bad behavior.

I'm hoping things go well. No matter what there can always be a solution for the strong willed. Good luck and take care!

Sincerely,
Arielle
:cheerleader:

[Ryuuzaki]

Hey guys, thanks a lot you've all helped me out a great deal I knew that people would say leave I just wanted to see what everyone had to say. Again thank you guys I'm gonna leave.

You're welcome, always happy to help 8D

[tripletres]

k, really, i may sound cheezy here, but id talk to her. if that doesnt work, id leave that ***ch and start anew.

-333

[Klard]

Even though the kids might miss you, moving on is best. After all, the mother is saying crap about you in front of her kids when you watch them, not her.

[Unknown]

^I agree with the above posts.
Moving would be the best choice..

[RavynMK]

call social services and move out... she sees her error and you are free.... of course bfore you go saying I can't do that to the kids.... wouldn't they be better off with someone who doesn't neglect them? think about that....

[analogZero]

I'm glad you're leaving, because it is your best option. If I were in your place, I'd tell her to straighten up before I leave. tell her that she's left to clean up the sh*t she's created, and if she can't deal with it then she ought to stop doing the horizontal mambo.
For the sake of the kids it wouldn't hurt to check up on them later, and worst case scenario call social services to issue her a lovely threat.
Point being, she's made a mess. you shouldn't clean it up.


ps. give her an invoice for babysitting fees :D

[Russkie]

plant some c4 around the room and......ignore that

Make her see the errors of her ways and leave.

Aww... you were actually heading somewhere with that...

[Klard]

Whatever you decide to do, don't flip out on her. She doesn't deserve the satisfaction of seeing you undone.

[a2ng0d]

you should definitely leave. and im glad you've made that decision. but hey, who said you cant visit the lil twerps every now and then? just because you move out, doesnt necessarily mean the kids are out of ur life for good. u feel me?

[krazykandy]

if it was me i would leave....i love kids and all but if you cant deal with the parents...and you are living with the parent its just going to make things worse....also it depends on the age of the children if they are at the age where they are suggestive it will be troublesome for you. if the mother is bad talking about you now think about how the mother will bad talk about you once you leave.....no win situation there
so i say leave and call child services

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[saprintha]

why is the children with that kind of mother in the first place? that's what i would like to know. even thought the best is to leave, i feel bad for those children because they dont have a loving mother.

[Ryuuzaki]

why is the children with that kind of mother in the first place? that's what i would like to know. even thought the best is to leave, i feel bad for those children because they dont have a loving mother.

The reason they are there is because she is their mother, even though she sucks as one. It's not their choice, sadly. =/

[monsoon 10]

Hello people, well lately I have been very lost you see I roommate with this lady, her name is Amy she is 27 with 5 kids that she is constantly neglecting, she is never home when they need her the most I am and I'm not their mother. See I started off watching these kids because of the money, but now it's not about that anymore I actually care about them and I enjoy spending time with them sometimes, but lately I have been feeling like just giving up and on them and moving out and not just because she neglects her kids, but because she has been talking crap about me in front of her kids the one person that will watch them and I'm so fed up with the crap. The kids have been begging me not to leave, but I just can't let her take advantage of me anymore I really love her kids, but I really can not put up with their mothers crap anymore.

Please if anyone one has any advice for me don't hesitate to leave a message i really need it right now.

Leave as quickly as you can. It seems pointless to stay in such a hostile environment.
But, if you really want to stay with the kids I've got two words for you "skin suit".

[animechic]

stay and ignore her or threaten to go to child services if she doesnt staighten up then leave and talk to child services

[angel fang]

you cant leave the kids.they trust you and need you more than ever.if you leave them your talking there lives with you.it's not fair but you should talk to the mother tell her what no one else will.tell her the truth.point out what she is doing wrong and if she has not heart for her own kids then tell someone else.someone that can help.and if you truly love them kids then leave.........and take them with you.but talk to the mother first.

[ichigogirl]

Hey guys Thank you all so much I have taken your advice and I now live with my sister.
Your all great *Hugs*

[gunbound15]

i would've recorded her dissing you off on camera or tape, and then record her neglecting her kids. then show it to her as you leave. and if she still disses you while you're leaving, sue her, you'll have more than enough evidence to deny her custody of her kids. but as it is, try leaving, it may be painful but the kids will learn to hate their mother and grow up really fast using that hatred. they'll become smart, graduate college, and throw that ***** onto the streets......you go girl.

[ANIMEL0VE]

well u should just ignore her and do it for the kids. i know you are only doing it for money, but what about the kids? you are kinda of like a mother to them(in some way).

[hanahime16]

Wow I am so sorry you are being put through something like this.
I was in a somewhat similar situation myself.
I used to live with my dad, his girlfriend, his girlfriends daughter (23yrsold) and his girlfriends granddaughter (3yrsold). The little girls name was sage and I was always the one taking care of her because her mother never paid attention to her or played with her or even stayed home with her. I really loved that little girl so much, but I couldnt take her moms crap anymore. She was such a ***** all the time and she would grab sage away from me just to set her down and walk away. I couldnt take her. So I moved out and to be honest with you, there are times I regret it. Whenever I do see sage (which is rare) she is always so happy to see me and she tells me Im her best friend and stuff and it just makes me want to cry. Knowing she doesnt have anyone to play with her or take care of her. But there are times when, no matter how soft hearted you are, you have to think about your own well being. What I did, I really think that it was ultimately the right thing to do. And I think that you'll find the same to be true for you.

I really glad youre such a good person, though, that you would think about those little kids. Its makes me happy to know there are still such good people. Most would say screw this and walk out 5 minutes after walking in lol. So good for you. And good luck. If you ever need someone to talk to again, you can always come to me. Bc ive been there too. I hope everything works out for the best for you! <3

[angel fang]

poor kids.

[monsoon 10]

stay and ignore her or threaten to go to child services if she doesnt staighten up then leave and talk to child services

Yep, nothing quite gets a child's love like a direct threat to their mother.

[Kidou33]

Lol well...sigh...the answer is kinda obvious?..*****slap the cunt *dead serious* tell her to go to hell when her kids abandon her and let her die from anti depression medicine when she hits 40...thats what i told my mother....>.>...rather, what i wish i could tell her <.<

[ichigogirl]

Yeah they really are great kids, I wasn't doing it for the money either I really love those kids even though they are not mines. I seen them the other day and i wanted to cry so bad, they were telling me that they love me, how much they miss me leaving with them. The 2yr old ask me why I left and I just looked at her an gave her a hug I didn't know what to say.

I really miss them, but I had to get out of there for my well being, I just couldn't take her crap anymore.

[Dolly]

Yeah they really are great kids, I wasn't doing it for the money either I really love those kids even though they are not mines. I seen them the other day and i wanted to cry so bad, they were telling me that they love me, how much they miss me leaving with them. The 2yr old ask me why I left and I just looked at her an gave her a hug I didn't know what to say.

I really miss them, but I had to get out of there for my well being, I just couldn't take her crap anymore.

It was the right decision. Since she can't depend on you to take care of her children, she might actually learn how to on her own.

Of course, that's only a happy story ending. But all things aside, it isn't your problem.

[Acess]

LMAO dam right Kidou33..YOu should of slapped the Hoo and sent the ***** down the Right path. Of i was you i would of been all over that ***** she said shit about you i would of got up in that *****s faces and said Listen here u stupid Cunt........and just would of went off on that Cunt........But that is Just me lol

[cupfuel]

Ha! I'd leave. Not saying that because I don't like kids...at all, but because of the Mother. What I would do, is flat out say in front of the kids something along the lines of, "I'm sorry, but I'm going to leave because I'm fed up with the stuff your Mother is saying about me."

i agree with ryuzaka and leerock. asy wat u gotta say on ur mind infront of the kids, like ur fed up with her crap. and just leave. they are no ur kids, but u do care for them, and dats good. but she is using u to get away from her kids and not take care of them. i really dont know WHY idiots like that even get pregnant in the first place. i was thinking of reporting her, the fact that she's neglecting her kids but i don't know if that is a good idea. just leave.

[cupfuel]

LMAO dam right Kidou33..YOu should of slapped the Hoo and sent the ***** down the Right path. Of i was you i would of been all over that ***** she said shit about you i would of got up in that *****s faces and said Listen here u stupid Cunt........and just would of went off on that Cunt........But that is Just me lol

slapping the trick would be good, too.

[monsoon 10]

No double posting.

[Acess]

slapping the trick would be good, too.

Dam right someone goes with my Plain...its a good one

[ichigogirl]

Well guys guess what I see that ***** tonight and said hi to her, trying to be polite an shit she said hi and as I was walking away I could here that ***** tell they guy she was with. Oh thats the fat girl i was telling you about that stayed with me, OOOO i went back and grabbed that ***** by the hair and socked that OH in the ****ing FACE a couple of times before her lil boyfriend grabbed me....

It felt really good to do that it sure did!!!!
That nasty trick, OOOOO i could still beat that ass

[Unknown]

Well guys guess what I see that ***** tonight and said hi to her, trying to be polite an shit she said hi and as I was walking away I could here that ***** tell they guy she was with. Oh thats the fat girl i was telling you about that stayed with me, OOOO i went back and grabbed that ***** by the hair and socked that OH in the ****ing FACE a couple of times before her lil boyfriend grabbed me....

It felt really good to do that it sure did!!!!
That nasty trick, OOOOO i could still beat that ass

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[Axe Man]

Well guys guess what I see that ***** tonight and said hi to her, trying to be polite an shit she said hi and as I was walking away I could here that ***** tell they guy she was with. Oh thats the fat girl i was telling you about that stayed with me, OOOO i went back and grabbed that ***** by the hair and socked that OH in the ****ing FACE a couple of times before her lil boyfriend grabbed me....

It felt really good to do that it sure did!!!!
That nasty trick, OOOOO i could still beat that ass


wow I'm not sure if I would have the guts to do that lol anyways you got to look after your self as well though. you can't let prople constantly push you around and you gotta stand up for what you feel is right. I'm sorry but that's all the advice i got not much I know.

[AIDA]

they arent your kids. but do u want them to have a bad life? no. just do wat u can and then tell her that she is no a good mother. that will hurt way more then anything else u can say.

[strike7785]

You need to move out. Maybe the mother will take responsiblilty knowing that your not around to be there for the kinds. THOSE KIDS ARE NOT YOUR RESPONSIBLITY!!!!! Question: How is she neglecting those kids? What exactly is she doing wrong for her kids? If it that bad, maybe you need to contact the police and have those kids taking away from her.

[Break001]

Well guys guess what I see that ***** tonight and said hi to her, trying to be polite an shit she said hi and as I was walking away I could here that ***** tell they guy she was with. Oh thats the fat girl i was telling you about that stayed with me, OOOO i went back and grabbed that ***** by the hair and socked that OH in the ****ing FACE a couple of times before her lil boyfriend grabbed me....

It felt really good to do that it sure did!!!!
That nasty trick, OOOOO i could still beat that ass

Nicely Done, i might have done the same in ur situation hehe.

[a2ng0d]

Well guys guess what I see that ***** tonight and said hi to her, trying to be polite an shit she said hi and as I was walking away I could here that ***** tell they guy she was with. Oh thats the fat girl i was telling you about that stayed with me, OOOO i went back and grabbed that ***** by the hair and socked that OH in the ****ing FACE a couple of times before her lil boyfriend grabbed me....

It felt really good to do that it sure did!!!!
That nasty trick, OOOOO i could still beat that ass

Yeeaaa boiiii!!!

good job.

[cupfuel]

Well guys guess what I see that ***** tonight and said hi to her, trying to be polite an shit she said hi and as I was walking away I could here that ***** tell they guy she was with. Oh thats the fat girl i was telling you about that stayed with me, OOOO i went back and grabbed that ***** by the hair and socked that OH in the ****ing FACE a couple of times before her lil boyfriend grabbed me....

It felt really good to do that it sure did!!!!
That nasty trick, OOOOO i could still beat that ass

well she deserved it!! BIG TIME!!!!
THAT SKANK!!!
i hope you left, too.

[analogZero]

Well guys guess what I see that ***** tonight and said hi to her, trying to be polite an shit she said hi and as I was walking away I could here that ***** tell they guy she was with. Oh thats the fat girl i was telling you about that stayed with me, OOOO i went back and grabbed that ***** by the hair and socked that OH in the ****ing FACE a couple of times before her lil boyfriend grabbed me....

It felt really good to do that it sure did!!!!
That nasty trick, OOOOO i could still beat that ass

did you kick her in the box? please tell me you kicked her in the box. if not go back and try again.

[ichigogirl]

Lol...I should have done that in the begining but I didn't...doing that felt so good I usally would not do that, but man letting go for once and doing to me what was the right thing felt so good....And no i didn't kick her in th box but thinking about it now I really should have....Smiles evily

[shadowmaks]

Just call child care or something like that. She doesn;t look after her kids and treats the only person (you) like crap. She is a bad person in general. If she doen's care about the kids, make sure the kids get to people that do, other than you that is. It's sad but in a way, it's god dam abuse.

[carolyn07]

...*slaps the mother of that kid!,.

why is she doing that?,.

for me,.its better if you leave,.coz there will come a time when the children will believe her coz she their mother and you wont be able to do anything about it!,.

if you love the children already,.then,.i think you can visit them sometimes,.but for me,.you must go!,.

i so hate the mother,.its also unfair for you coz your taking responsibilities which are not really yours,.your right,.shes taking advantage of yours!,.♥

[ichigogirl]

Hey don't worry I am out of that bitch, she can do what she wants now all i can do is worry about those kids.