is it weird?

[LoD]

i'm 19 and never had a girlfriend. i have had many friends who were girls but i never felt anything from them and i never felt anything for them. i'm sure i'm not gay i'm not confused about my sex but i feel like i have missed something in life. i see alot of good looking girls but i don't feel anything, i can't remember the last time i liked a girl.

i know i'm still young but i'm started to feel bit lonely and i still don't feel anything for the girls i see, they look good but the way they are just boring. we never have the same intereste or the same idea about the world. the only girl i have liked was back in school and she was like me wired funny in her own way but she wasn't interested in me as a boyfriend. i'm moving to ohio to study and i want to find out the problem before i go.

[Unknown]

I don't see anything "wired" about this.

You're Asexual maybe?

[cindy]

aww ... well ... let me tell u something ... i never ever had a boyfriend EVER in my life ... but i'm still living happily cuz being single for me isn't bad. Boys asked me out but i rejected not cuz they were weird or ugly ... just that i don't want a boyfriend during school days cuz i believe it'll be a waste of time to go out with a boy during school days ... lol ... i'd rather study -i know ... i'm a nerd ^^-

I'm sure u'll find the right person for u ... don't worry ... u still have college and ur moving ... so u'll meet new ppl and u still have a LONG way to go ^^ ...

[Unknown]

One more thing.
I am similar to you in a way.

I don't feel anything for girls either.
Neither do I feel anything for guys.

[spirit]

I don't see anything "wired" about this.

You're Asexual maybe?
jeez, asexual?? do you even get what he was talking about??... He's problem is not concerning his sexuality... but emotional "attachment" to someone.

I must think over this... and then I'll try to come up with something.

[Xunlai]

yes weird seeing how you cant spell weird.......*ignored topic*

[Unknown]

It was a joke.

I gave a hint on the first line.
That I wasn't taking it serious.


jeez, asexual?? do you even get what he was talking about??... He's problem is not concerning his sexuality... but emotional "attachment" to someone.



See below. :serious:

One more thing.
I am similar to you in a way.

I don't feel anything for girls either.
Neither do I feel anything for guys.

[spirit]

It was a joke.

I gave a hint on the first line.
That I wasn't taking it serious.




See below. :serious:
I think he was being serious when he wrote that thread though.....don't you think?

[Unknown]

I think he was being serious when he wrote that thread though.....don't you think?

My first post on this thread wasn't serious.
My second post was.

I couldn't give him any advice since I am similar in a way.

[sparkrose]

its kinda wierd
but you just made my day
so im grateful :P
sorry im so younger than you
and ive had a girlfriend or 3
though i suppose your off
each time ive had my heart torn to pieces
please take that seriously ive been stabbed
i mean bleeding bad stabbed
because a girl i asked out
didnt like "weak" people
i passed out so no date

anyways dude my point is always do when it comes to love
this way i sleep with no regrets

[jamjfly]

aww ... well ... let me tell u something ... i never ever had a boyfriend EVER in my life ... but i'm still living happily cuz being single for me isn't bad. Boys asked me out but i rejected not cuz they were weird or ugly ... just that i don't want a boyfriend during school days cuz i believe it'll be a waste of time to go out with a boy during school days ... lol ... i'd rather study -i know ... i'm a nerd ^^-

I'm sure u'll find the right person for u ... don't worry ... u still have college and ur moving ... so u'll meet new ppl and u still have a LONG way to go ^^ ...

I feel the same way (just I am male) and I'm just not interested in having a girlfriend during the school days. So GO NERDS!

[animex09]

im in no position to give you advice because i also have never had a girl. ive been asked out a few times but never got notin with them. (not gay, i love girls)

[sparkrose]

oh right advice sorry i was a bit happy there i had a bad day
anyways
just be yourself and add more energy
but not to energetic
just like have high days
and low days if you see
someone cute pay a bit more attention
but if you have someone you like
persionality (thats what i go for)
then pay even more attention to her


though i liked my time....
it hurts in the end

[puppetz]

what ive learned in life is that u dont go looking for the perfect girl. the perfect girl comes to you. and whether or not you take the shot is up to you. opportunities are given and some let them pass but be sure to take charge and make the right decision when it comes around.

and relationships can be bad. trust me. i prefer the single life for now until the right girl comes along. just when they do make sure that u can be with them before you take anything seriously. i know i should have posted this with the first post i made but i forgot...

[Unknown]

and relationships can be bad. trust me. i prefer the single life for now until the right girl comes along. just when they do make sure that u can be with them before you take anything seriously. i know i should have posted this with the first post i made but i forgot...

There is an edit button for a reason. :)

[puppetz]

oooo nice call haha

[LoD]

frist of all thanks for your advice. i'm glad to see there are other people who enjoy life with out sex :P.

[animechic]

it could be worse you could me i havent kiss a guy since 4th grade and im going into 7th grade:pissed:

[sousuke]

ive had alot of gf (goin 11th grade) but i never kissed any of them, heres the real answer to this thread you just never found someone you have interest in, i think that youve never had gf is gods/buhddahs way of saying youlle find a great great gf later on in ur life

[cindy]

frist of all thanks for your advice. i'm glad to see there are other people who enjoy life with out sex :P.

WOW ... so u want to have a girl just for sex ... NOT COOL ... lol ^^ ...

and yes ... GO NERDS !!!!!!!!!!!!! ...

and like someone said that i don't remember above me ... i never ever kissed a guy EVER too in my life ... cuz i never had a bf ... and i dont really want one right now cuz i'm waiting until college or maybe not ... ^^ ... maybe marriage cuz i'm not a type of person who wants a bf really bad right now ...

[Rincewind]

ive had alot of gf (goin 11th grade) but i never kissed any of them, heres the real answer to this thread you just never found someone you have interest in, i think that youve never had gf is gods/buhddahs way of saying youlle find a great great gf later on in ur life

Wow that was kinda cool and philosophic (dunno if I spelled that right)

Girls are kinda complicated,I havent had time to get attatched to any of the girls I have met yet , And im 19 :O I belive I will find the right one later :D

[LoD]

WOW ... so u want to have a girl just for sex ... NOT COOL ... lol ^^ ...


lol what can i say we all have needs:P naa i'm just joking but you guys are properly right, i just need to find a girl that is intersting enough. i don't feel that down it's just when i'm hanging with friends they talk about girls and time to time that question comes up, dude u sure u like girl? :P

[shadowmaks]

I'm no expert and I never had a girlfriend and never even got close to kissing one, but I know one thing. Find someone that you can relate to. Find something that both of you injoy to do. I've learned that you have to look for someone that you find good and want to be with, not what others find good. Every person is different and in a way similar. Now that I think about it, I just way be single my whole life. Why am I even saying this, I'm only 14. -laugh-

[leerock89]

Emotional detachment... interest but no motivation with any subject.... did something happen to you in the past??

[LoD]

Emotional detachment... interest but no motivation with any subject.... did something happen to you in the past??

like what?

[Maydraie]

Hey there's nothing wrong with that. I'm weird and proud of it. I've only had 1 boyfriend and i'm in my 20s. You just haven't found the right one yet.

[arcose]

frist of all thanks for your advice. i'm glad to see there are other people who enjoy life with out sex :P.

i havent had sex in 3 years

[leerock89]

like what?

Anything really bad, don't have to mention details but I think you get the drift.

i havent had sex in 3 years

Yikes!!!! Good lord meng!! What the hell have you been doing for 3 years??

[LoD]

not really, i have moved 7 times in the last 9 years which makes it diffcult to keep friends but i find friends easy enough. i have had incest issues but seem to be okay now. i thought i was gay once so i date a guy for sometime and it wasn't me so that ended but i'm okay with all that to tell you the truth it makes life easire. i had this friend and he was so confused with is sex and i'm free from stuff like that. he found out later just because you watch couble of gay movies doesn't make you one :P

[illuma]

not really, i have moved 7 times in the last 9 years which makes it diffcult to keep friends but i find friends easy enough. i have had incest issues but seem to be okay now. i thought i was gay once so i date a guy for sometime and it wasn't me so that ended but i'm okay with all that to tell you the truth it makes life easire. i had this friend and he was so confused with is sex and i'm free from stuff like that. he found out later just because you watch couble of gay movies doesn't make you one :P

I have to commend you. I should know my friend was gay and he the hardest time asking a guy out. For you to have the balls to do something like that is pretty brave. I will tell you right now though, theres nothing wrong with that. I mean i've had about 3 and only 1 was a real one, the other two was just there cause i was too nice to reject them. It just might be hard to connect to anyone on a deeper level since you move so often. I should know since i move every two years, but that isn't as bad as you.

[spirit]

Emotional detachment... interest but no motivation with any subject.... did something happen to you in the past??
omg.. lee... this is the best question what so ever... ::D:

[strike7785]

Yeaa thats ok if you dont have a girlfriend. It takes time to find the right one for you. Dont worry Mrs. Right will come around the corner for you sooner or later. Dont rush it!! Though Im curious to see what lonlyness are you feeling right now. I mean like you not going out with friends that have dates and you are being the third wheen. If thats the case don't bother going out with them if it makes you feel uncomfortable. Its been a year plus since I last dated and some times I wish I had someone but like I said dont rush it you may get into a relationship that may bring you trouble. Being single too has its advantages.

[leerock89]

Ok next question is rather simple. Virgin?

[cindy]

dude u sure u like girl? :P

wait ... r u talkin to me ?????

[Shigami]

not really, i have moved 7 times in the last 9 years which makes it diffcult to keep friends but i find friends easy enough. i have had incest issues but seem to be okay now. i thought i was gay once so i date a guy for sometime and it wasn't me so that ended but i'm okay with all that to tell you the truth it makes life easire. i had this friend and he was so confused with is sex and i'm free from stuff like that. he found out later just because you watch couble of gay movies doesn't make you one :P


Wha..?? Details,Details!!!

[Bishop]

don't let it get to you lol, im single to, just waiting for a girl that share similar interests,
iv had a girlfriend before but didn't work out, oh well... we will see what the future brings

[leerock89]

OK well the way I see it is everyone so far is saying the perfect one will come by, blah blah blah blah. The thing about this is how will you know her when she comes if you've never had a girlfriend before? Sometimes, even if your not interested, you should try it out. Don't be afraid to test the waters. Second I would say you should go with a guy but you already did that. The only thing about being gay is you actually have to do it with a guy, or at least get really close, to tell whether or not you are bi/gay. Dates do nothing for guys, especially if your young. We only date cause if we do everything right we get a little something something at the end of the night. And finally, as a last resort, look into interspecies erotica and, what the heck, necrophilia. You will never know what floats your boat if you don't sail the seas. And if none of it works, then YOUR BEING SELFISH. Stop complaining about something your causing yourself and go out and DO SOMETHING.

[Shigami]

Necrophilia as for..sexual action with a dead person? .. that's sick dude.
Why are you so worked up about getting a girl friend anyway?

[Koopaking]

Necrophilia as for..sexual action with a dead person? .. that's sick dude.


That happens to be a hobby of mine. Don't be hatin'.

[Shigami]

That happens to be a hobby of mine. Don't be hatin'.


That's not something you should be proud of ya know :oo:

[LoD]

Ok next question is rather simple. Virgin?

depends on with what sex?

wait ... r u talkin to me ?????

no no, aren't u a girl?

Wha..?? Details,Details!!!

sorry i have to keep that door closed!

i'm thinking about what leerock89 said. i know alot of people that are much older than me like 40+ who still haven't found Mrs.Right. So maybe Mrs.Right is hiding and you may have to kiss couble of frogs to find her.

[sousuke]

your confusing me lod.......... just read my other post

[Rincewind]

Originally Posted by Shigami
Necrophilia as for..sexual action with a dead person? .. that's sick dude.

That happens to be a hobby of mine. Don't be hatin'.

:scaried:

Lol, Why did you guys take koopa serious on this, hes like the last serious guy here , exept perhaps moonson :P (no offence :P)

[cindy]

Ok next question is rather simple. Virgin?

depends on with what sex?

wait ... r u talkin to me ?????

no no, aren't u a girl?

Wha..?? Details,Details!!!

sorry i have to keep that door closed!

i'm thinking about what leerock89 said. i know alot of people that are much older than me like 40+ who still haven't found Mrs.Right. So maybe Mrs.Right is hiding and you may have to kiss couble of frogs to find her.




yes yes .. i'm a girl ... wat were u trying to say ????

[Nahmu]

You will never know what floats your boat if you don't sail the seas.

exactly.
no, it isn't weird that you haven't found anyone who has interested you enough to take a liking too. especially since you've moved around so often, it must have been difficult to genuinely get to know someone and even be in a position where you can start to like them.
maybe girls aren't your thing, and that's cool, but maybe you've just been around boring girls all of your life. i don't think it's so far fetched that you just haven't met enough girls.
i don't want to trivialize your troubles, but i don't think there is a problem with you. just accept the fact that there hasn't been anyone interesting enough to make you look twice. don't stress that it's been longer for you than most people; the world is too large and beautifully complex for you to go forever without meeting anyone who interests you.

[leerock89]

Ok next question is rather simple. Virgin?

depends on with what sex?

wait ... r u talkin to me ?????

no no, aren't u a girl?

Wha..?? Details,Details!!!

sorry i have to keep that door closed!

i'm thinking about what leerock89 said. i know alot of people that are much older than me like 40+ who still haven't found Mrs.Right. So maybe Mrs.Right is hiding and you may have to kiss couble of frogs to find her.

Well I wouldn't think to hard. Your a guy and us guys are real simple. I would say, go do everything in sight and see what makes you happy.

[tripletres]

the only thing i find weird is the title. but i kinda have the same problem as you.

[LoD]

Thanks for all the answers people I appreciated it a lot :D Lets hope i find Mrs.Right in Ohio.

[MelBrooks]

T_T i have no advise because i dont have a girlfreind or had one T_T

[leerock89]

Thanks for all the answers people I appreciated it a lot :D Lets hope i find Mrs.Right in Ohio.

Good lord you live in Ohio. No wonder, its a boring state!! Ok meng move to Cali, NY, or Florida. You will have fun.

[Russkie]

:scaried:

Lol, Why did you guys take koopa serious on this, hes like the last serious guy here , exept perhaps moonson :P (no offence :P)

Hmph... Arent you forgeting about someone else..? I'm never serious (except when it comes to zombies).

Anyways, I've been avoiding this topic for awhile now, mainly because I dislike talking about relationships. No, no its not "weird" that you've never dated. I for one have never dated and look how I turned out?

[LoD]

lol no i'm moving to ohio thanks for the heads up :P

[TheScryer]

We may be alike in a few ways. I'm definately attracted to guys. I've never kissed a boy. I've had a few boyfriends but never any I was serious about. I've never felt an actual emotion about another. I'm 18. I'm a virgin. I don't want to have sex, ever. So I say I'm asexual. A straight Asexual. My views may change when I'm older but I doubt it. All the children I ever have will be adopted. I won't do childbirth either. I'm not sure I have emotions. I can say I can say I love a person, but the words are hollow... I know when a guy is cute or funny and i'll say it. But it's only what I know, not how I feel. Life can be cruel. It can hand you the worst stuff you've ever been through. The only person that ever tried to help me realize I might have emotions hate's me now... I don't know why either.

[RavynMK]

I've dated a couple guys... but none of whome i ever had true feelings for... I can't seem to find anyone who fits me nor do I find anyone attractive.. yet I know I like guys... but it doesn't bother me... It just means I've yet to find the right person and perhaps one day they will come along.. thats all.

[monsoon 10]

Ok next question is rather simple. Virgin?

No, nokia.

[Klard]

Bah, I may be a little young to give advice(15 isn't old)but I for one am sick of dating people. I can barely take care of myself, let alone another person with their own wants and needs. Don't worry about it man, you've still got time to find someone. I on the other hand have stopped caring. I stand not to get hurt that way and being single has its advantages.

[KittyODoom]

Just because you dont have a girlfriend or have never had a girlfriend isnt wierd...you just havent found that one girl to get your heart thumping and feels the same way... I say that if you do find a girl that does that you should tell her your feelings, you never know, she could just be shy but she really likes you too!

Good Luck!
^.^

[Areku]

*points at LoD* omgweird.

Just kidding. It's totally normal, you just didn't find the good one and that's good, because I personally don't like people who go out with people just to "be with someone".

[carolyn07]

...i guess your just enjoying being yourself!,.being single!,.

you just dont like a girl right but you can say that a girl is beautiful if she is beautiful,.i mean?,.you still can notice?!,.♥

[Sanehouse]

I'm 21, and I've never been in a relationship. It's not weird, nor is not feeling any attraction for them. For you, it may take more than physical attractiveness to get your spark on. Give it time, I say.

[analogZero]

Now, I like girls muchly, but I can't do the sleeping around with girls I hardly know shtick. There's just no appeal to it. That's about where I can kinda see where you're coming from. Trouble is, I'd say, you're focusing on finding a kindred spirit just by looking at people. People date for two reasons: 1, they're insecure and need somebody to cling to; 2, they're digging through the dirt to find the gold. There's lots of gold, but there's about a million times more dirt (granted your perspective of course). Being in a relationship with a girl isn't about getting to touch their no-no goodies, it's more like having a cool super friend...who, on occasion, lets you play with her no-no goodies...her yumyummies if you will.

[spirit]

Now, I like girls muchly, but I can't do the sleeping around with girls I hardly know shtick. There's just no appeal to it. That's about where I can kinda see where you're coming from. Trouble is, I'd say, you're focusing on finding a kindred spirit just by looking at people. People date for two reasons: 1, they're insecure and need somebody to cling to; 2, they're digging through the dirt to find the gold. There's lots of gold, but there's about a million times more dirt (granted your perspective of course). Being in a relationship with a girl isn't about getting to touch their no-no goodies, it's more like having a cool super friend...who, on occasion, lets you play with her no-no goodies...her yumyummies if you will.haha... for a second, while reading your words, I imagined you in a role of a great father explaining your little boys about the differences between males and females... playing with "no-no goodies" and other "yummies"... haha... very classy and funny ;)

[analogZero]

haha... for a second, while reading your words, I imagined you in a role of a great father explaining your little boys about the differences between males and females... playing with "no-no goodies" and other "yummies"... haha... very classy and funny ;)

touching a girl's cupcakes is a serious matter, my dear.

[Roanoke]

Uhm. Yah.. im kinda like the same. Im kinda like an "untouchable" so my friend has called me. Apparently it's someone that alot of people like but can't get. Like, alot of girls like me and try to "get all up on this". (lol my humor in the post). But i just don't want to date, nor feel the need to either. Im kinda busy with school, and having someone like that requires time. which i don't have.

but.. sometimes i do feel empty. like im missing something. then i happen to see couples everywhere but oh well.

Just not interested right now. So i guess it's normal-ish since we aren't the only ones.