sapphireAT
04-28-2008, 12:16 AM
In most cases, you can't go wrong with a romantic dinner. Although the cinema is a traditional choice, there is virtually no intimacy or romantic atmosphere as you are both having to concentrate on a film rather than on each other. Generally the idea of the first date is to get to know each other better and perhaps more intimately. There's no doubt about it, having dinner with someone is a pretty intimate experience and it may be daunting to have to sit in front of someone you don't really know for a couple of hours and eat in front of them whilst maintaining a smooth flowing conversation! The truth is it will nearly always be better than you imagined providing you follow some fairly basic rules.
GUYS: (Conversation)ˇ
Ask her about her work, goals and desires
ˇListen to her I repeat... Listen to her
ˇCompliment her on how she looks and especially compliment her shoes...she probably spent ages getting ready and will really appreciate it.
ˇListen out for any similarities you may have so you form a 'queue' of things to discuss when appropriate
ˇKeep a mental list of easy to discuss subjects such as favourite movies, food types, music
ˇTry and find out about her views and values before openly displaying yours
ˇGive her centre stage first...find out as much as you can about her...be interested in her life and resist the temptation to talk about yours too much initially
ˇDon't bullshit about things
GUYS (Physical Stuff)
ˇDon't stare at her breasts...no matter how appealing they look!
ˇGenerally, if the date is going well, you'll both be mentally aware of it and you will know the appropriate time to make a more physical move
.Give good, confident eye contact
What To Eat
This is generally up to how comfortable you feel. So many dishes come with garlic that it is almost impossible to avoid and it really isn't a huge issue.
It may be better to avoid ordering something that will be really messy and difficult to eat, such as lobster.
Paying the Bill
Always a difficult moment, but on a first date, always offer to pick up the bill...after all, you invited her out. She may well offer to contribute which is fine.
GUYS: (Conversation)ˇ
Ask her about her work, goals and desires
ˇListen to her I repeat... Listen to her
ˇCompliment her on how she looks and especially compliment her shoes...she probably spent ages getting ready and will really appreciate it.
ˇListen out for any similarities you may have so you form a 'queue' of things to discuss when appropriate
ˇKeep a mental list of easy to discuss subjects such as favourite movies, food types, music
ˇTry and find out about her views and values before openly displaying yours
ˇGive her centre stage first...find out as much as you can about her...be interested in her life and resist the temptation to talk about yours too much initially
ˇDon't bullshit about things
GUYS (Physical Stuff)
ˇDon't stare at her breasts...no matter how appealing they look!
ˇGenerally, if the date is going well, you'll both be mentally aware of it and you will know the appropriate time to make a more physical move
.Give good, confident eye contact
What To Eat
This is generally up to how comfortable you feel. So many dishes come with garlic that it is almost impossible to avoid and it really isn't a huge issue.
It may be better to avoid ordering something that will be really messy and difficult to eat, such as lobster.
Paying the Bill
Always a difficult moment, but on a first date, always offer to pick up the bill...after all, you invited her out. She may well offer to contribute which is fine.