dating advice for guys

[sapphireAT]

In most cases, you can't go wrong with a romantic dinner. Although the cinema is a traditional choice, there is virtually no intimacy or romantic atmosphere as you are both having to concentrate on a film rather than on each other. Generally the idea of the first date is to get to know each other better and perhaps more intimately. There's no doubt about it, having dinner with someone is a pretty intimate experience and it may be daunting to have to sit in front of someone you don't really know for a couple of hours and eat in front of them whilst maintaining a smooth flowing conversation! The truth is it will nearly always be better than you imagined providing you follow some fairly basic rules.

GUYS: (Conversation)·

Ask her about her work, goals and desires
·Listen to her I repeat... Listen to her
·Compliment her on how she looks and especially compliment her shoes...she probably spent ages getting ready and will really appreciate it.
·Listen out for any similarities you may have so you form a 'queue' of things to discuss when appropriate
·Keep a mental list of easy to discuss subjects such as favourite movies, food types, music
·Try and find out about her views and values before openly displaying yours
·Give her centre stage first...find out as much as you can about her...be interested in her life and resist the temptation to talk about yours too much initially
·Don't bullshit about things
GUYS (Physical Stuff)
·Don't stare at her breasts...no matter how appealing they look!
·Generally, if the date is going well, you'll both be mentally aware of it and you will know the appropriate time to make a more physical move
.Give good, confident eye contact


What To Eat

This is generally up to how comfortable you feel. So many dishes come with garlic that it is almost impossible to avoid and it really isn't a huge issue.
It may be better to avoid ordering something that will be really messy and difficult to eat, such as lobster.

Paying the Bill

Always a difficult moment, but on a first date, always offer to pick up the bill...after all, you invited her out. She may well offer to contribute which is fine.

[Ryuuzaki]

lol Great job on this, I'm SURE theres some guys out there (and on here) who are clueless. And even though this advice is YEARS ahead of me, it may still come in handy...not that I need any advice *wink*

[shiv]

OMG...r u jokin'...lol...haha.....

[epoc]

never been on a date xD might be use full.
File->save as...-> dating advice.html

[Jason X]

^ ^ pretty useful but Im just glad to have my girlfriend but to advice for guys looking for a girl shes got the tips so listen to them well Id expect so heheh she is a girl no offence so she should know

[athrun0017]

Thats actually too basic! .. to be honest, that would be a normal date and not that much fun.. remember this, every guy is different and that is what sets us apart from the rest, besides some women love for us to be in control and others like it if we do things that she wouldn't expect.. my advice! is just don't be yourself while out on a date!..lol *smiles*

[scott11]

good one there sappH...



just be yourseLf...haha

[shiv]

".Give good, confident eye contact "

u dont want me to do that..i have beautiful eyes..no1 can resist to wach me straight in the eyes1

[monsoon 10]

·Don't stare at her breasts...no matter how appealing they look!


Paying the Bill


Your code of etiquette is too unreasonable for any young gentleman to follow.

[shiv]

"Don't bullshit about things" usualy this is were i mess up!

[Thoza]

well thanks'''' for the advice....
mauhauahauauhuahuha

[strike7785]

Thats good Advice!! I've been on many dates to where I have been stumped on what to talk about. Thank goodness something inside a restarunt goes bad and we end up talking about what happend and who got spilled on. Anyway I've been on my own for a year now. THe best advice I can offer is don't go looking for someone. If you look you will never find her/him. It will naturally happen.

[KillionX6]

OMG...r u jokin'...lol...haha.....

i dont know what to take this as, but if your making fun of sapph your not cool

[Thoza]

well tell me the advice dating for Silence Girls.....
its kinda hard make convertation with a quiet girls ??

[strike7785]

I don't know, you got to find out what makes the quite ones laugh. You got to talk to them and if helps make yourslef look stupid and try to open her up. I might be wrong but Mrs. Sapph she definetly knows best. And dood Killion I was not making fun of her

[Thoza]

well that's what i do.... try to make my self stupid in front of her....
but we are still friend.... not date yet.....
well my plan its ask her out on this summer to the beach,,,....,,,...

[Break001]

There are different situation to all dates and circumstances, but advice givin is always good. Keep in mind it won't go all the way exatly as u plan it sometimes so don't bum urself out about it hehe

[analogZero]

x = {q + [q2 + (r-p2)3]1/2}1/3 + {q - [q2 + (r-p2)3]1/2}1/3 + p
where
p = -b/(3a), q = p3 + (bc-3ad)/(6a2), r = c/(3a)

and that's how you solve any 3rd degree polynomial equation...as for girls, don't ask.
french accents? mais oui, bien sur!

ps. girls stink!

[monsoon 10]

i dont know what to take this as, but if your making fun of sapph your not cool

Now c'omn shiv is entitled to post his opinion no matter what it may be. *following the rules of course*

[xantok]

that is WAY to much to remember... i think ill stick with winging it... maybe ill remember one or two of them things but i aint gonna remember it all... i jsut now get to go looking now after almost a year of dating someone

[Break001]

Agreed winging it haha just be ur normal self and u'll be fine just be elegant/gentlemen about it haha and get lots of charm on that one hehe

[Ryuuzaki]

I'm made of charm (and win)

But yeah really just be your self and everything should go smoothly ^^

[Break001]

Yup yup XD

[carolyn07]

Thats actually too basic! .. to be honest, that would be a normal date and not that much fun.. remember this, every guy is different and that is what sets us apart from the rest, besides some women love for us to be in control and others like it if we do things that she wouldn't expect.. my advice! is just don't be yourself while out on a date!..lol *smiles*

...i agree!,.well,.i would like a guy to be himself when he's dating me,.but of course,.he has to make me impress!,.paying the bill and be a gentleman throughout the date would be okei with me!,.♥

[revwest]

What if she has a joint account with you and you pay in the end anyways?

[savke1989]

Just be yourself guys... If she doesn't like it- keep on searching. But don't be yourself in a way where you gonna expose your dark side (lulz).... just try to be nice, pleasant, charming... If you see that you are getting words out of her mouth then either you are boring, or she is just not interested. And straight eye contact when talking to her, deep looks while she talks... she will actually think you are listening to her... :D

[starscream]

Treat the Lady like a princess and you can never go wrong. Make the date about her.

[shinigmiXb]

i just tell it how it is...i'm blunt if you don't like it oh well...you can't be too sensitive...girls love a bad boy....yeah....

[DyFF]

Lol this is good =) may use some of this

[shinigmiXb]

if you like a girl don't be afraid of rejection...just tell her you was peepin her or eyein her...and you want to be friends...from there lace it up with some convo...females love convo...if you can't keep a convo up with a female for more than 30 min...you done for...women love to talk...so talk to em...that's how you build up intimacy yo...then once you get your gift of gab down...it'll be easy to talk to these women...trust me

[strike7785]

i just tell it how it is...i'm blunt if you don't like it oh well...you can't be too sensitive...girls love a bad boy....yeah....

You mean the bad boys that are sweet on the outside and on the inside are nothing bur drug dealing punks. Yea you sound just like that type. The kind Ill pick up off the street and put yours sorry ass in jail. Then you can be as sweet as you want with Bubba in your Cell.

[suune]

Girls can write so much books about dating and flirting, but a guy can't write one about a relationship and how it works.

[SmokedBoo]

Girls can write so much books about dating and flirting, but a guy can't write one about a relationship and how it works.

Amazing isn't it? Most men know more than they think they do.

[kairine:))]

~ good! *thumbs up* ::D:

[shinigmiXb]

You mean the bad boys that are sweet on the outside and on the inside are nothing bur drug dealing punks. Yea you sound just like that type. The kind Ill pick up off the street and put yours sorry ass in jail. Then you can be as sweet as you want with Bubba in your Cell.

wow...don't hate...cuz you was in iraq...and i was getting pussy...yeah i hustle...but i hustle smart...i hustle in college...90% of you average college student is a pothead....i ain't never been to jail homie...so you can keep your jail cell fag thoughts to your self...

[Ykzier]

You mean the bad boys that are sweet on the outside and on the inside are nothing bur drug dealing punks. Yea you sound just like that type. The kind Ill pick up off the street and put yours sorry ass in jail. Then you can be as sweet as you want with Bubba in your Cell.

I'll have to agree on this, GIRLS like bad boys. Women like confident mother fuckers. Except that I'm confident, but I'm too wierd for people to be interested in me >.<

As for the guide, I've pretty much got the whole politeness thing down, looking into eyes and actually listening is easy as crap. I dunno why it's so hard for most other guys to do. But the whole paying the bill thing would be difficult since I don't have a job (seeing how I'm not 16 yet). But if you can mix this guide and be yourself good enough, THAT would be the ultimate.

[BoneTosser]

Here is a question for all of you giving advice on dating. What does a guy do when, after being as advised in this thread, the best he gets is a friend? The woman is interested at first, but after a date or two only wants to be your friend.

And just so I don't have to answer this later, Yes this happens to me alot.

[savke1989]

Here is a question for all of you giving advice on dating. What does a guy do when, after being as advised in this thread, the best he gets is a friend? The woman is interested at first, but after a date or two only wants to be your friend.

And just so I don't have to answer this later, Yes this happens to me alot.

Turned out you are not the kind of person they want you to be... but girls tend to make friends with guys they like, and then slowly play with their minds... "like let's go to walk" and they just play it casual... they want to feel relaxed, and to a lot of them it's hard to accept they are dating someone, they are sometimes afraid being attached so they go slow.

[ounsreymum]

i dont date

im a boring person...lol

[strike7785]

wow...don't hate...cuz you was in iraq...and i was getting pussy...yeah i hustle...but i hustle smart...i hustle in college...90% of you average college student is a pothead....i ain't never been to jail homie...so you can keep your jail cell fag thoughts to your self...

Who are you kidding. Fucking women in Iraq are so damn horney 24/7 its easy to get some ass, but do I want those sleezy bitches, HELL NO!!! Besides I like to keep myself clean and disease free. I aint got time for your kind. As for the jail bitches which most of your home boys are in, Yes I work for the Columbus Police Department. I put your kind in jail every single damn day. ITs really sad as well. Seeing how you are a thug I have not doubt in my mind that you are on the right track in sharing cell with one of your homies.

[wi_sam]

I'll have to agree on this, GIRLS like bad boys. Women like confident mother fuckers. Except that I'm confident, but I'm too wierd for people to be interested in me >.<


I'm looking for a wierd girl.

but girls suck, seriously ...

[CryticX]

LOL, I lol'd at this, but I guess it's beneficial for newbs at dating....nice triple post, jackass