impossible to love again

[sapphireAT]

ive been having problems expressing how i feel toward a guy ever since my break up in september and i've been single since then. i was wondering how to get over this uneasiness and strut myself to a new beginning in a love relationship?
saph:ramen:

[Ariya]

I normally take a deep breath and then go for the new relationship.

Dwelling on the past will only make you miss out on the greatness that comes on in the future, especially with love.

[psychosk8r]

well as the saying goes ' its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all' so i say just jump in because you never know which guy is the one that sends your mind into oblivion so keep lookin till you get there then do your best to keep him.

[Sun Tzu]

You don't need to go looking for love, if love is true then it will find you... holy shit that rhymed

[archangle]

take ur time and don't rush into things b/c rushing things always get things into a tangle

[BlueSano]

take ur time and don't rush into things b/c rushing things always get things into a tangle

i totally agree just breath and take your time and as sun tzu siad tru love will find you ...^^

[Gabrieth]

Go out pretend to be drunk ... it attracts a lot of guys ... not the best ones but they can be used for a while hehe.

[RetroRob70]

i dont thing you shoud fallow Gabrieth's advice (not really that healthy emotionaly and physically), personaly if i was in your position i would just keep it slow and low key it might just not be the time for a new relationship, not to say that you shouldent get to know the guy better and make the relationship you have already deeper who knows you might find somthing out that would have put you through more pain if you were in a BF GF relationship than just friends

[Destati]

gabrieth's advice ftw.

Ps, not really. I'm going to have to agree with the others. You just have to dive in. Sure, things may come to an end sometime, and you may have to deal with the loss...but I believe that it's better to take the chance. Go for it.

[Gabrieth]

Nah what I mean is you need to get use to loosing guys and try out a few since you have like 1 chance on a million to find a good guy if you had one boy friend but if you had a thousand boy friends you have a thousand chances on a million which is better then one ^^
But getting drunk in party's is a bad idea even for boys :)

[sapphireAT]

Nah what I mean is you need to get use to loosing guys and try out a few since you have like 1 chance on a million to find a good guy if you had one boy friend but if you had a thousand boy friends you have a thousand chances on a million which is better then one ^^
But getting drunk in party's is a bad idea even for boys :)

there is one thing that gabrieth is right about..i have had millions of boyfriends since i was a little kid..like in middle school. but i've had one seriouse relationship which i screw up in...we lasted almost four years...im still torn by the fact that he broke it off so its put me in a situation where it hurts to love again...im almost scared to love even....
as for drinking at parties..well i dont drink much..if i do its just one glass or bottle of something that i can drink due to my medication....thought when he says that im sure he means bar hopping ;d lol but thanks for the advice everyone
this therapy thread sure has helped me the last few days
saph:fruit:

[athrun0017]

Am sorry to hear that... but take everyone's advise.. its okay to loose someone and just because your still single doesn't mean that you can't get anyone else... my advise " choose something you want to do and then just do it.." once you make your choice then there is nothing to loose, because you've made it..

ex.. go out and buy some clothes that you normally don't wear, (don't go too far) then go to the mall or movies, smile as you look for things while shopping.. in the end you will fill better, because its something that you choose to do and plus we actually like girls who can choose for themselves for a change and actually look happy... because thats' what everybody wants.. happiness

[jujutsu]

forget about the past just go for it

do not think just ask it and express your feelings
good luck

[shiv]

Saph,i have more then 1 year since i havent felt love for someone! When i broked up i was devastated! (i realy had a nice tru love story)
Until recently,having sex with random girlz seemed k,but i just cant do it anymore! So in the last week i've been realy realy depressed! Now being in London is even harder to find a girl to love!

My advice? none,,can't help u,i'm in a worse state the u r!

[sapphireAT]

i like ur gif shiv...its kawaiiiiiiiii just want to hug it lol jk jk but seriously hope u turn out for the better...cheerio
saph
ps
thanks for the talk tho this post is like a month old so things are better for me now

[athrun0017]

Well the real question is .. " do you really need someone? ", " Why? " .. sorry but i don't have the answers to those basic questions yet, but i believe in Karma! and what goes around comes around!

[scott11]

don't rush sapph...

everything's gonna be fine....


reLax...

[xantok]

you can love again.... just get a dog...

they listen better than men
they behave better than men
they are always happy to see you
they dont hold grudges
the list goes on and on

if you odnt believe me try this: lock a guy and a dog in the trunk of your car.. leave them there for an hour and see what one is happy to see you again

[leerock89]

I think you in love with love. Hope that makes sense.

[sapphireAT]

i love being in love with love ..wats wrong with dat? *blushes*

[shiv]

i love being in love with love ..wats wrong with dat? *blushes*

:crying: Blleah..no1 likes my love story,,,! Urs tho is on top! Btw..u haven;t told us ur love story!!
W e wanna know!! (me actualy)

[xantok]

well you shouldnt go looking for love... if you go looking for it you will find a false love that will get you hurt...

[Shoga]

One thing that might help you a little with expressing yourself is to make a small journal. In the journal write down how you feel, what you're thinking, what you want, what you want to do, and your goals. By writing it out, you give yourself a clearer picture of what exactly it is that's going on inside of you. And with this, the journal will either confirm or deny what is floating around in your thoughts and mind allowing you to act or not, giving you the confidence you feel that you require. It may be tough, but it can be done!

[strike7785]

I agree mostly with the others GO FOR IT.!!! Dont worry about the past if you do then you will regret it Im sure

[Ino]

I've never told the guy that I really love, but he knows that I like him...He and I are pretty good friends. We don't talk that much but...we're kinda getting to know each other. Always remember, take a deep breath and be yourself.

[dannx]

i would say just take it slow and if something feels right then go for it, wait until you are comfortable then you can be a little bit more immune to things that will come

[animaniac]

you can love again.... just get a dog...

they listen better than men
they behave better than men
they are always happy to see you
they dont hold grudges
the list goes on and on

if you odnt believe me try this: lock a guy and a dog in the trunk of your car.. leave them there for an hour and see what one is happy to see you again

I like this one.......don't ask me...trust me you wont get anything even with torture.

[scott11]

dog's a reLief, it can be.....


nyaha....

[Shoga]

WOOF! I've been called a dog by many but, never for good reasons. WOOF!