How to Find Girlfriend ???

[Thoza]

ok i need some advice for this 1.....
im to shy .... talk to girl
and i dont know what i must talk with girl i like

somebody help me..... !!!!!!!!!!

oh yeah any advice for get girlfriend in short time ??

[leerock89]

hhmm ok. keypoints i learned in the field.
1) humor - girls love a guy that can make them laugh
2) confidence - gotta have plenty of it. make sure to be able to stand up for yourself, for your beliefs.
3) honesty - now this one is complicated. some like to hear great things about you even if there false, like saying your a doctor or a sailor when infact you happen to work at a fast food joint. other wont care and are only interested on wats inside. for me personally i like being honest on everything. opens them up.
4) looks - if u have it flaunt it. if u dont work on it. if u dont care u better hope she doesnt care as well. u have to look clean. by that i mean u can still look ragged but make sure its clean.

now wat u do is simple. you go up to them and u talk to them. dont think about what might happen from it u go for the goal. if you already know the girl u gotta find out if your friend-status or open for relation. look for the chemistry. if u dont feel anything while talking its not going to work without ALOT of effort. if u cant do any of this then go online. chat room prove to work just takes longer. have fun gl and happy trails.

[Thoza]

hhmm ok. keypoints i learned in the field.
1) humor - girls love a guy that can make them laugh
2) confidence - gotta have plenty of it. make sure to be able to stand up for yourself, for your beliefs.
3) honesty - now this one is complicated. some like to hear great things about you even if there false, like saying your a doctor or a sailor when infact you happen to work at a fast food joint. other wont care and are only interested on wats inside. for me personally i like being honest on everything. opens them up.

now wat u do is simple. you go up to them and u talk to them. dont think about what might happen from it u go for the goal. if you already know the girl u gotta find out if your friend-status or open for relation. look for the chemistry. if u dont feel anything while talking its not going to work without ALOT of effort. if u cant do any of this then go online. chat room prove to work just takes longer. have fun gl and happy trails.


1. i dont know how to make humor
2. i allways confidence
3. i always honest to girl i like...... example : when i see girl and the first place and i like it ..... i will say it in front of that girl

[Crubion]

ok i know how it is for you.. i been there before. first you will have to get over your shyness. your shyness can come off as being unconfident in your self. you will have to be in what may feel like uncomfortable conversations, but trust me talking to her and getting a phone # is a big step. next once you get her # actually call her!!:p talk bout some things that may interest both of you, or just interest her if theres no common topic. make her feel comfortable around you/talking to you. then you need to ask her out for 1-1 date, it doesn't have to be to any place special heck it could be to a coffee shop or to a park, just make it fun and interesting. after that its all up to you. hope this helps you out in some way...:D:D:D and good luck!!:cool:

[1,000,000]

You'll find it easier when you get a little older. Just talk to them like you'd talk to your dude friends. You will learn that there is nothing to be afraid of, and if that doesn't help think of it this way, they're just as afraid to talk to male just as much as you're afraid to talk to female, though they'll show it differently. We are only human, tis natural for us all to be a little scared at first

[silkshadow]

you need a bad boy image also i know girls say they dont like it but whatever lol you have to be able to excite them in more ways then one if the bad boy doesnt work then try for the mysterious type lol

[1,000,000]

Those are exactly the type of girls you should avoid. They aren't all like that haha

[silkshadow]

lol not really i know plenty of nice cathlic girls that like guys like that

[psychosk8r]

ok im going to say this and im a girl so listen carefully.... if you want to get a girlfriend that is worth while and not just a 2 day experience then you need to start out as friends you cant really be a good couple if your not friends first that way you know each others weak spots and strong points so you dont end up getting on her nerves to quick. once the friend status is there then just ask its not like you have to plan it all out just do it from the seat of your pants (i wasnt talking about farting) then whatever you do dont smother her if she sees you everyday at school or places like that then thats good but after school dont be at her house everyday because she WILL get sick of you and just say its over believe me when i say you do need time apart.... so good luck and i hope i helped you some lol

[silkshadow]

oh no not the freinds thing you know how hard it is to break out of the freinds status and if it dont work out things could get a lil uncomfortable

[archangle]

u should just be yourself and maybe make u feelings be known to that someone....the rest is mostly up to u

[psychosk8r]

theres nothing wrong with being a friend its the 'close' friend title thats hard to get out of. is she thinks of you as a friend then good but if its a close friend then consider yourself f***ed. and try a different chick lol

[silkshadow]

ok i can agree with that cause i do beleave you cant build a relationship on just one thing and that you need to be freinds sorta= good communication

[psychosk8r]

well ill put it this way im a chick thats bi so take my advice

[1,000,000]

lol not really i know plenty of nice cathlic girls that like guys like that

uh huh, then when another 'badass' comes along or has something new to offer they'll leave you in a heart beat. And those 'nice catholic girls' you're talking about are usually the most F**** in the head

Edit: Plus, they don't want the badass, they want the confidence the badass has

[silkshadow]

lol not really the bad boy just hooks them then you work on the rest

[1,000,000]

Whatever you say sir

[Katana]

Just be yourself. =3
If a girl doesn't like you for who you are, then she's not worth it, ne???? =)

&& I don't think it's a matter of 'finding' a girlfriend; I think it'll just happen, when you're least expecting it. ^.^

x

[psychosk8r]

yea that works too lol

[Thoza]

well ill put it this way im a chick thats bi so take my advice


yeah its like you give me advice to get close to you:D:D:D:D
i dont know..... im new in USa.... and i really" want to get Girlfriend
the point its.......
i dont know how to make conversation with people around here.......
hiks im bad

[Ariya]

If you're shy, you won't be able to get one. You need to burst through your bubble. Girls like guys with looks and personality. Girls tend love funny guys, so try to be humorous. If you're cute or hot, that's definately a plus. Girls also love a bit of sensitivity.

Now, what your main problem is is that you want to get one in a short amount of time. That's not how to do it. Spend some time with her first. Become friends, basically. Then build up the relationship by going places together, not necessarily a date, but just to hang out. Soon, you'll have a good enough relationship to pop the question. When you do, make sure you're alone with her, and none of her or your friends are around.

Hope that helps. :]

[Thoza]

yeah i think's that help.......
i want to do stuff like ariya says.......
its like romantic stuff........
but i like to talk much.....

some people tell me please about what girl like the most ???

[leerock89]

uumm hard to say. have u been reading every post? i believe your answer is somewhere here. btw the type of romance u see in anime is actually very rare. it does happen but the chances of it happing in that manner is very low. i would suggest u practice alot. when u talk to a girl for the first time its like a game (hence the term he/she got game). some things work and some things dont. once u figure that out u should be ok.

[sasnin14]

You'll find it easier when you get a little older. Just talk to them like you'd talk to your dude friends. You will learn that there is nothing to be afraid of, and if that doesn't help think of it this way, they're just as afraid to talk to male just as much as you're afraid to talk to female, though they'll show it differently. We are only human, tis natural for us all to be a little scared at first

MAN! What you've just said it's what i was going to say :mad: :rolleyes:
I think this.... This is d..*runs out (mom calling her)* lol, i just came back... the ceiling was leaking!! and now i went to the office of the apartments and this men was touching me!! EWWW!! >_> ok ok,... getting back to the subject. (sorry) The thing is... you just gotta be yourself, i know this sounds old and not helpful, but at the end of the line, you'll want her to like YOU, not an imaginary person, got me there? Well, that's the most important part.
Now, think, why do you like her? Is it for this, or that... and then try to look at the way she acts, and who she speaks to... then from all this, try to find something in common as her.
I've been with this one boy, who i'm like in total delusion over... he broke up with me, (he says) because i kept on saying 'no', but I just think he's afraid of going out with me cuz he's afraid of love (my friend heard him saying to his best-friend that he loved this one girl, then he asked me out the next day -.- obvious) And what i'm trying to explain to you is, the way i started out with him was with someone helping me... I needed someone close to me (to keep the secret as long as needed) and someone that was always close to him...so what you should do is...one of your closes friends, tell them, and tell them the plan --> see who she hangs out the most, and try to get your friend to tell her friend.. kinda getting it? well ya, after that...the shyness is something everyone gets... AND I DON'T CARE WHO YOU ARE EVERYONE GETS SHY SOMETIME IN LIFE!! lol *calms down* Right now, sense i only like him... and we went to the movies and talked a lot...i'm not shy around him anymore, of course i'm going to worry about the hair... and all.. but that's just something that is always going to happen :p <-- lol, you're kinda seeing how the girls are now...
I would also tell you, that the girls..the more confident they look, the more scare they're inside...O_O lol i know. *sighs* girls...
Something that i found out...(lol, this is from expirience from the internet) >_> after you talk to, or in your position, hang out with her. She might start telling you stuff, like, 'omg, I hate when ppl talk behind other ppl!! That's just soooo annoying!! ><' and all, well, WITHOUT CHANGING WHO YOU ARE...you can take that into conscious and not talk 'bad' about other ppl infront of her, and even when she's not there.... believe me, she'll start seeing stuff like that, it's like you're becoming her prince :p Without actually changing yourself, just making yourself better!! ;)
To all the stuff that i've said, of course there is exceptions, cuz ...if she says 'omg, guys who do drugs are sooo hot' wtf, don't do drugs... :( lol, at the end of the line, do what you think it's right!! ;)
*might remember some more advice later on the week*
>_> kinda weird i know all this stuff... when i only went out with one dude, and this boy who i was talking about....(boys don't like me for who i am, like me for my big boobs and ass, and waist, and face, and hair >_> ya wtf, hair lol) But, ya OH YA! If you kinda like her for her looks, it's ok... i mean, you gotta have an attraction for your 'partner' but don't show her that, to the extreme... don't act like that's the only reason why you like her, concentrate more on her personality. :)
Well, ya... i talk a lot and say pretty much nothing.. <_<
i'm sorry, i could of make this way smaller.... but i really wanted to answer your question... and sense i did this quick and didn't even check if sentences make sense.. sorry...
but ya, see ya round!!
~sassy~

[Thoza]

wait minute..... leerock how do you know what i mean ???
well......
type girlfriend i really" want..... its on Midori No Hibi Anime

[leerock89]

lol! have fun looking! and wat do u mean how do i know? eh??

[Thoza]

heh..........
ok.....

[Ariya]

You aren't always going to get your dream girl, but you have to make the best with what you can get.

Now as for what girls like, flowers. Girls love getting flowers. Be it a simple rose, or a whole bouquet of flowers.

Chocolates. You know, the ones in heart shaped boxes.

Jewelry. You might not be able to afford diamonds, seeing as the cheapest thing you can get is like $100, so go for cubic zirconium. Looks just like a diamond, only it's cheap. Necklaces are the best things to get. Also, sterling sliver is nice, but it's a little on the expensive side, but normally on sale.

If I knew how old the girl was, it would be a lot easier.

[leerock89]

i say enough talking about it. go out there and gain some exp. screwing up a couple of times really wont hurt to much. your young u can handle it. and we can only tell u so much and in the end it might just confuse u then help u.

[Thoza]

what ????
thats expensive Gift........
im still high school......
i still search for work........ not work yet... ( need ipod )
hmm yeah i will be glad if i get Mature Girlfriend.......!!!!

in my back country its easy to get girlfriend.....
its like just give respect to girl you like.....
asking her to date.......
give some Attention....

ahh

[Corwin]

I'm w/ lee on this, you might as well get out there and try or you will never get anywhere, at the very least you might have an understanding female friend who would be willing to go out w/ you on some practice dates, especially if you're footing the bill, that way you could get the necessary experience you need, and who knows, if you couch it that way and she happens to be the one you want to hook up w/ than by the time you're ready to man up she'll already have a good idea of what dating you would be like and be more open to the possibility

[Thoza]

i..... dont understand what you try to say corwin ???......
i already try to go outside and get some girlfriend......
hmmm

[leerock89]

i think wat he means is wat r u still doing posting in here? go out there have some fun come back.

[Corwin]

do you have a friend that's a girl thoza, just a friend, well if so, see if she's willing to help you out by going on some practice dates w/ you so that you can get some experience in the dating world before you try to go out and get a real g/f, is that a little more clear?

[Thoza]

well it is...... !!!!
yeah some she hang out with me now........ she still dont know if i like her......
anyway.... .thanks for the advice......

[Corwin]

I'm not talking about if she likes you or you like her, I'm saying she's your friend, she might be willing to help you out by letting you gain experience dating her for practice

[Thoza]

ohhhh. .......
dang im start to slow.........
well ok... thanks corwin

Ganbante...... !!!!
Naiyate .....????

[Lelouch]

If she's older make sure she doesn't consider you, her little brother roffle you'r doomed
Make sure you actually want a girlfriend cuz if not, playing with feelings is very and I mean VERY dangerous.Once you "get one" (yeah I know it sounds like she's a thing you own but I don't really know how to refraze it) don't stress her too much but don't leave her alone too much either, one of you guys will get bored of the other and that's the finish line.
Don't try bondage on the first date 90% she'll run away after a she kicks your "soft spot"

[Thoza]

what ????
that's sounds
Cool.......
Make Sure She Consider you are a Big MAN .... .even you younger then her....

[leerock89]

s&m all the way baby!! lol! j/k. seeing as how this thread is still going and u seem to be here during peak search times, u havent done anything about it yet have you?

[Thoza]

i start doing from the first Advice
its going well........
i got friend...... Girl..... Cute..... But Still Process

[Ariya]

Then go for her. keep talking to her, hang out with her, build up the relationship.

[Thoza]

When ??? Now ???? wEll..... Still Waiting For Star Fallen... For Making Wish....
Anyway its Night Now..... !!!

[Ariya]

Go throw a penny in a fountain and make a wish. :/

[silkshadow]

lol nights a nice romantic time to be with a girl lol

[Thoza]

yEah But Not For High School Girl's........ They Have To Do HomEwork .......
muahauhauhauhauh Waiting For School Tomorow......

[silkshadow]

then get smart and totur her lol

[silent]

that's strange . Why don't you just stay the way you are , girls don't like boys who just act

[nejih94]

well,most grls r shallow and dont care wether u act 1 way or another:D:D

[leerock89]

are u kidding? girls have so many emotions if u do something that might be ok to you it might piss them off.

[Thoza]

yeah i know it leerock.....

i try to act my self now....... try to find girlfriend with my own Style......
and thanks to some people give me advice.....
that's really" usefull

i start with 2 girl in school

[leerock89]

man u gonna be a little pimp watch

[Jack]

well,most grls r shallow and dont care wether u act 1 way or another:D:D
Most guys are shallow in the same way though. In fact, more often then girls in my experience. I mean, I know that I usually don't care how somebody acts after I get to know them and like their personality. Then I put all of the focus on myself and how I can make that person happy. In other words: I start acting desperate and make a fool out of myself no matter how many times I swear it off. It's just a big unneeded heart ache. Do yourself a favor and don't get close to anyone unless you know who they truly, truly are. Otherwise, it's like falling in love with a stranger. Just treat girls like friends until you find one that's special to your specific needs and that just appeals to you in an almost mind blowing way. It can't be explained in words as far as I know and anyone that thinks that they can, is just a confused, self-centered individual. You'll know when it happens. The best advice that I can probably give you is to just be careful with this stuff man, it's risking your happiness...

Not sure if you gathered any of that but I did my best.
-Jack

[leerock89]

aaww! jacks a hopeless romantic!! ladies you got yourselves a good one here!! try to get him before someone else does!

[Thoza]

well......
thanks jack
you sure romantic

thanks.....
i need to focus first

[Jack]

I wouldn't say romantic all together, mostly worn out and scarred like most of us here.

-Jack

[leerock89]

here here!! wat i think the problem is after a certain age we men forget that women are still human. get over that and its easy.

[1,000,000]

Women are insane. It's burned into their genes.
Ex: I was supposed to go over my girls house today, but she told me not to because she had to babysit her nephew. Now she's mad at me because I didn't go over.

[Corwin]

She's not insane, just delusional, it's a different type of crazy where women expect us to be telepathic so that we always know what they expect of us and can conform to that standard or desire, granted, men aren't exactly perfect either, their defects just happen to trend in different directions

[leerock89]

thats the way things are. men are simple creatures. we have simple pleasures. women are way complicated. like 10 things are going on in there minds at any given time which is why they can multitask naturally.

[Katana]

We women are not insane. XD We just PMS 24/7... xPPPP

x

[Ariya]

Agreed, Katana. We are not insane...all the time.

At least I'm not. -coughcough-

[silkshadow]

no not insane just moody and very vendictive

[Thoza]

well the truth its.......
we are the guy much crazy then woman
ok .....

tell us about the longest relationship????

me about 3 years......

[silkshadow]

thats off topic why dont you start a new thread for longest relationship

[Thoza]

ohh yeah you right........
mauhauhauhauhauhau

[silent]

in one thing you're right women are confusing

[leerock89]

wait a sec. this thread started cause thoza wanted adivse on getting a gf....then wat is this??
//well the truth its.......
we are the guy much crazy then woman
ok .....

tell us about the longest relationship????

me about 3 years......//

[Jack]

You're absolutely right, leerock89.

Closed

-Jack

[fallenlife]

Hey im having trouble getting a girlfriend does anyone have any useful advice or wisdom they could share

(they keep shooting me down :( !)

[Bricaine]

What I like to do is go out in my best Loincloth, if I see one I like i grab a handful of hair and drag her into my cave for a bit of tea and charred hog leg..... Wait I guess I'm having those flashbacks my doctor warned me about. No seriously though man If I knew more of how you were as a person I'd actually might be able to give some worthwhile advice.